Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Social Media Sites May Help You Find Your Next Date




Years ago it used to be that if you wanted to meet someone new you had to either go to a bar, club or places like movie theaters to make new friends. The other option was to ask family members or your friends to introduce you to someone you may have seen at a party or a get together. However, in recent years technology and social networks have changed all that. Now everyone is using the internet and popular social media sites as a way to meet new people and make instant friends. Sites such as Hi5, Facebook, Twitter and Google+ have become the place to meet someone new since it is so easy to join and gives the users many opportunities to meet people from all over the world. When you join a social networking site, you instantly open the door to meeting people from different countries and cities without even leaving your own home or office. You can even use your mobile phone as well.

All it takes are a few simple steps and almost anyone can do it. The first thing you need to do is create your profile account in any of the social networking sites you may like. Next you need to find someone you know that has already been a member and add them as your friend. Once you join your friend's network you immediately have access to all of his friends and the possibilities of meeting new people become endless.

After you make a few friends then you can leave comments, play games, chat and use many other activities as a way to communicate with other users. If you see someone you might like to meet this is the way to go until you get to know the person better. The best part of joining social media sites is that there is no limit to how many people you meet every day or from where

Sites such as Facebook have many fan pages that post parties and events where many singles meet. You can go anonymously just to see what goes on and to see if you like anyone there without ever revealing your intentions or who you are.

One very important thing to keep in mind when adding "friends" or people you don't really know is to be on the lookout for fake profiles, 'spammers' and criminals who use social networking sites to target people. You must also be very careful about what personal information you post about yourself or what you give out to those you don't know really well. In the event there is someone you like and are thinking about meeting them in real person you must take a few precautions first. Always make sure you let your real friends and family members know where you are going and with whom. If you do not want to tell your family or friends about your activities then be sure to pick a public, crowded place to meet the person. You can also go with a real friend or a double date to be sure all goes well. One of the best ways to assure that you make friends fast is by posting cool comments and status updates on your profile. This will serve as way to break the ice with the online community. Also, this will get you more attention and by others commenting on your status will make your profile more likely to be seen and noticed by more members. You can find great status update in one of the links below to help you on what to put on your wall or cool comments to say.

Times have changed and now thanks to popular social media sites it is very easy to meet new people. Your future partner may be already waiting for you online.

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

"Seeking Drama Free Woman" - Placing This in Your Dating Profile Is the New "Red Flag"




An observation I made recently has proven itself true, the majority of those who say the 'hate drama' are the biggest drama creators. I hear it daily, 'I hate drama' is often posted as a Facebook status or 'I'm getting rid of the drama in my life'. What does this really mean and why do the same people who seem to create drama claim to hate drama? Could it be they hate drama because it is always present in their life by their own actions? Scrolling through online dating profiles, my friends and I noted a large amount of men stating in their profile headline, 'seeking drama free relationship' or 'drama free woman'. When we see this on a man's profile, we immediately skip. What we hear is 'I don't want to work to achieve a relationship', 'I don't want to try to understand' and 'I make women lose their minds with my unwillingness to communicate'. So, placing 'No drama, please' in your dating profile has become the new 'red flag' in dating. We see it as a possible sign this man is unwilling to accept fault or resolve conflict by honesty and working on a relationship. So, you don't feel this is fair? Is it any less fair than labeling every woman who speaks her mind and demands respect and honesty as a 'drama queen'? In it's original meaning, I believe the term 'drama queen' was used to describe someone who is an attention-seeker. A dramatic person is loud, obnoxious, confrontational and unreasonable. A drama-queen/king is a person who does not consider there is another perspective and who is unwilling to accept blame. This person will easily 'fly off the handle', make irrational decisions, involve others in the conflict and even attempt to recruit a team to side with them. These are the friends on the phone within minutes of a conflict recruiting someone to 'side' with them and often distort the facts. A drama-queen/king believes the current issue is of significance to everyone and will stop at nothing to prove they are right and when all else fails may resort to loud sobs to gain sympathy. Gossipers would be an ideal candidate for the label. They talk about everyone's business and feel the world should know - to be the center of attention because they know all there is to know about everyone.. In that sense, I believe most of us truly do want a 'drama-free' life. However, if your life is constantly filled with that which you label as drama, perhaps it's time to consider your own contribution to confusion. Relationships without conflict is an unrealistic expectation.

So, how has 'Seeking Drama Free Woman' become the new 'Red Flag'? When we see this in your profile, we take into consideration it may be for the following reasons: (Don't shoot the messenger, this is for your consideration)

1) You are a non communicator. The woman makes an attempt to discuss her feelings, you shut down completely unwilling to discuss or acknowledge the problem. You accuse her of being overly sensitive. She is very frustrated you will not validate her feelings. She gets louder to be heard. Her verbal frustration is labeled as 'drama'. Women need to be heard when something feels wrong. She needs to know you are willing to compromise to prevent these bad feelings from recurring. If you will make no attempt to listen and make remarks such as, 'you're over-reacting', 'you're just being crazy', 'this is immature', the result will be an emotional reaction. You label this incorrectly as drama.

2) You are disrespectful. (particularly regarding members of the opposite sex in that you blatantly flirt and toss her to the side when someone more attractive shows up). Maybe you make overly sexist remarks that belittle women. You spend too much time trying to make her jealous of the attention you give other women than you do giving her attention. You will aggravate the green monster and label this incorrectly as drama.

3) You are a man of mixed messages: A man who says one thing and his actions reveal another. Mixed messages lead to conflict and confusion. I have witnessed men tell woman all the sweet things, introduce them to family & friends, then tell everyone you are 'just friends'. Guys, this leads to heightened conflict which many now refer to as drama. Save yourself the drama and be honest in all your dealings.

4) You play games: We all know the 'pleasant withdrawal' games. You don't return text for days or return phone calls and when her emotional buttons get pressed, you claim 'I was busy' or 'I don't keep my phone up my *bleep*' (yes, I have heard this one). The latest form of ''withdrawal' games include 'Facebook absence'. We see men shower other women with attention; 'liking' their statuses, being flirtatious, 'liking' pics & then intentionally ignoring their 'love interest' (even when they post directly on their wall). We are not this naive; it angers us that you are trying to manipulate our emotions. It may achieve your goal to pull her in for the moment, but eventually, when we try to 'call you' on it, you call it 'drama'.

5) You simply defines normal conflict resolution as drama. If the slightest conflict is considered drama, you probably do not want a true, meaningful relationship which requires work. In a relationship, the elimination of conflict grows as you learn more about each other. Typically, it follows a pattern, a natural flow. As you date someone, a bad feeling may arise. If it doesn't feel right to you, it should be addressed honestly. Telling someone how it made you feel without attacking them should not be labeled as drama.

6) You are simply a drama creator without realizing it. If you refer to every woman you date as 'crazy' or a 'drama-queen', we assume you are pushing her buttons for any of the above reasons. If every woman you dated is a 'drama-queen', you may be a jerk. Again, don't shoot the messenger. Of course, there are men and women alike who thrive on conflict, confrontation and drama. We do understand that many men truly mean they do not want 'drama' as defined earlier in the definition. Learn to recognize the difference in honest conflict resolution and a person who wants to pull everyone into the situation. But, also, take a moment to just consider if you say you 'hate drama', it may be because you are creating a bit of drama with your own communication skills, lack of honesty or unwillingness to work through conflict.

What You Should Know About Online Singles Dating




Because of the fact that the internet is currently the most widely used communication and research tool, a lot of people have taken advantage of it as their means of meeting new friends and even finding the love of their life. To even make it a lot easier for people to meet, get to know each other and communicate regularly, social networking sites and online dating sites have been created. If you are quite curious about what online singles dating people from the internet are like, here are some of the things you should know about them:

• Online singles dating interested individuals from the internet have different reasons for joining those dating sites. People who offer seemingly irresistible relationship deals on the internet may have come a long way before they decided to go online and let people find them. Some people must have also hesitated and some may not have even thought twice about it. There are those who just sincerely feel bored and lonely which is why they decided to go soul-searching the modern way. They just needed someone to talk to and make friends with. But there are also those who have unlikely reasons like they wanted to find someone they could marry and take them away from poverty. People like them are usually after those more commonly known as dirty old men. There are also those who simply wanted a night out. Those who just go for one-night-out make it clear that they do not want any strings attached. Whichever type of online singles dating you may want to deal with you have to make sure that you do not end up feeling sorry about ever going on a date with a stranger.

• Online singles dating people from the internet may also come in different types. There are those who are truthfully honest about themselves and their reason for signing up on a dating site and there are also a bunch of liars. Because of this, it is very important that you choose well the person you are dating with by chatting with them and researching on their background. Liars are usually those who would either have very little to say about themselves or those who have too much to say. Having met quite a lot of people in your life, you probably can already tell honest people from liars.

• Online singles dating people from the internet do not really just settle for anybody. Although a lot of people who despise the idea of online dating say that online dating is just for those who are desperate to have partners, a lot of people from online dating sites actually prove them wrong. They choose well the people they are dating with. Because of this, you should make sure that you are also honest in communicating with them. If you are asked to put a picture of yourself on the internet, do not put a picture that was taken several years back or somebody else's. Trust me, it hurts a lot to be neglected because of how you look after they have found that you are really not the person they expected.

There are still a lot of things that you should know about online singles dating in order to guarantee that you are safe with them. Whether you are in for a serious relationship afterwards or not, you should make sure that you sign up for a real and trustworthy online dating site.

How to Flirt With a Woman - Listen To What Women Say




Part of being good at flirting with a woman is being good at listening to what she has to say. The more you listen to her, the more you will be able to find out what makes her laugh, what makes her smile, and most importantly... what makes her feel sexually attracted to a man. Women are right. Men are not very good at listening and although women usually say that in the context of complaining about their man, what men should pick up on is that they are telling you one of the most crucial pieces to the puzzle of flirting with a woman.

There is something else, though about listening to a woman that you should pay attention to. And that is this. When seeking advice on what women respond to, it's good to get some input from other women. There is this idea that women don't give out good advice and I really don't find that to be true at all. Most women do have a hard time telling you what works on them, that is true. What they are usually good at though, is telling you what works on OTHER women. So, if you have some female friends that you can get some input from, go ahead and get it.

Why should you listen to what a woman says about flirting with other women?

When talking about themselves, most women will be pretty protective so they are not going to spill the beans on what they get turned on by. That's just the way she goes. On the other hand, when they are talking about what works on a woman they don't even know, they usually don't have that urge to be protective. So, what you wind up getting is some pretty good insight that comes straight from woman.

Ask her questions and analyze her answers...

Another good way to get better at flirting with a woman is to ask a female friend that you have questions about a guy she has dated and why she was attracted to him. Now, she will probably not tell you everything, but she probably will reveal some clues. And that is where you need to analyze what she says. Just because you don't hear her say straight out that this is what worked on her, it does not mean that she is not telling you what really did work. Most of the time, she will say it in such a way that you kind of have to see around what she is saying to see the real truth.

Monday, November 28, 2011

Pearls of Wisdom Series 7: How to Properly Break UP




You just met the guy/gal of your dreams. Too bad your significant other isn't him/her. What are you supposed to do? You want to be honest, but at the same time be nice. Luckily, I've devised a system anyone can use to break up the right way.

Step 1: Admit to yourself you don't feel that strongly about the person.

This is an important step because sometimes people convince themselves they really love someone out of sympathy or pity. Realize just how much or how little you care for the person and be truthful to yourself and the person.

Step 2: Contact the person and prepare a time and place to talk.

Things like this shouldn't be done over the phone especially if it's a long term relationship. You might think it's easier for both of you to do it this way, but it'll just lead to resentment and possible problems in the future. Have the courage to face them directly. It's the least you can do. Also, pick a place that's quite. If you break up with someone in the club, they'll just be confused and possibly not hear what you're saying.

Step 3: When you meet him/her don't give them any kind of affection. They need to know this is serious and you are not wanting to reciprocate any romantic feelings.

Step 4: Look them in the eye and explain to them why you can't be with them. Be brief but also be empathetic when waiting for a response.

Step 5: Stay firm in your action and do not change your mind or sentiment, especially at that moment. You don't want them to get mixed signals and think there could be a possibility for reconciliation.

Step 6: Do not ask them to be friends. He/She is your Ex. Exes need to stay Exes at least for a couple of years. If you really miss that person then a couple of months. There has to be a grace period of no contact so he/she can move on and you as well. It doesn't matter if he/she is groveling and begging you to take them back. If you really don't want to hurt that person's feelings, you can't be wishy washy. Stick to your position.

Step 7: State to them that you're sorry and be as sincere as you can be.

Step 8: Tell them you do not want any contact for a while and that you wish them the best.

Article written by: Rosemary Jasmine Rivera

Mistakes Commonly Made in Online Dating For You to Avoid




Online dating is fun, but to convince a really good partner through this virtual world of internet is seriously no child's play. If you are hoping to make it big and find someone suitable and compatible with you with help of the online dating sites, then it's suggested that you take a pause and know about its basics before taking the plunge. 

Though internet has become an indispensable part of our living, even today people look up to this virtual world with suspicion and doubt in fear of getting misled.  Hence to convince the girl or guy of your choice about your authenticity through these online dating websites are not going to be an easy task. But that doesn't mean that you give up; instead try to impress your choice with proper etiquettes, decorum and an out of the box profile that attracts instantly.

You will find lots of websites suggesting you ways to impress your girl/guy, but very few will give you effective tips to avoid the mistakes that can ruin all your efforts within minutes. Here we will be exploring about some of these common mistakes that you should avoid in order to make a fine impression, thus winning your partner of online dating effectively:

Sunday, November 27, 2011

Understanding Male Psychology - What Makes Him Want You, Or Not




What is it about a woman that makes a man want her? You really wish you had the answer to that question, don't you? Perhaps there have been times within your life that you felt you had men all figured out but then inevitably something happens and you realize they're still nothing but a puzzling mystery to you. When a woman gains some insight into male psychology it can help her see much more clearly what it is about some women that men find utterly irresistible. If you're serious about learning what makes a man want you or not, get ready to delve into the inner workings of the male mind.

Your attitude about yourself is going to play a key role in whether a man wants you or not. I know this isn't news to you. You've heard it before but I'm here to stress it to you. If you're a meek, unconfident girl who doesn't feel she's good enough, any man you get involved with will adopt that same attitude about you. That's not what you want is it? Men are captivated by women who can take or leave them. They love seeing a woman who is completely and utterly in control of her own life. If a woman comes into a relationship with the attitude that she's more than enough, obviously the man she has her sights set on will see that in her and he'll be naturally drawn to it. You're a prize so make him believe it too by showing him that you are.

Another tip about male psychology that will help you grab hold of the man you want and have the relationship you've long desired is if you don't chase after him. It's so hard not to do that when you instinctively feel that he could be "the one." Men can sense when a woman is desperate. That's not an appealing quality to any man. He doesn't want you to place yourself at his feet and proclaim to him that you are his for the taking. He'll see you as too quick to commit and way too serious. Let him do the chasing. He wants to. Don't make it too easy for him to spend time with you and never change plans just because he's called at the last minute to see you. You aren't any man's back up plan. If he wants to spend time together, train him to plan days in advance. That way you'll be showing him that you are worth the wait.

Men have little use for drama. It's easy to understand if you spend any time at all with a man and his friends. They aren't drama queens and they don't cause friction with another just for the thrill of it. Women are notorious for loving drama. Some of us thrive on it and it's never a good thing. It causes stress and anxiety and if you're in a relationship it can cost you the relationship. Men don't want to be subjected to the drama between you and your friends. They don't want to hear about every small thing that went wrong at work today. They love being with someone who can roll with the punches and who doesn't take life or herself, too seriously.

Which leads to one of the most important points you need to remember if you're trying to appeal to a man and make him want you. Embrace the fun in life, always. He doesn't want to be with anyone who is too serious or who takes herself so seriously she can't find her own faults. Live each day to its fullest and be spontaneous and willing to take risks. Let him see that you can think outside the box when it comes to planning dates and don't worry so much about what you're wearing or how your hair looks that you lose sight of the experiences with him. Smile at him. He'll see it as his reward for finding someone as special as you.

Finding Your Match Through Online Dating Sites




Online dating sites have been made to ease the process of finding the right partner something that is proving to be more challenging for most people as the days go by. The sites have actually come to the rescue of most people hence the popularity. This is a great way of easily finding your perfect match for the kind of relationship you are interested in.

Dating sites which are of high quality will offer you the opportunity to go through different profiles of potentials thereby giving you the ability to make a choice depending on the different personalities you find. You will also get the chance to prepare a profile that will also be viewed by potentials out there getting you many responses from those interested in you. The best thing about the sites is that you won't be pressured in choosing the person you are interested in and actually you will have the chance to talk to many people at the same time before making the final decision.

The sites bring people from all parts of the world together since they are not only limited to local singles. To increase your chances of finding your perfect match, you will need to first sign up with an online dating site that is of good quality and one that is reputable and trustworthy. The online sites are based on different kinds of relationships; while there are those which will handle a particular community in terms of relationships, others will accommodate more than two kinds of relationships.

For instance, you can find sites dealing with serious relationships while other deal with casual encounters. Some are dedicated to seniors while others accommodate younger people. You can make a choice to go for sites dedicated to African singles, American singles, white, black and Asian singles or those that are for bi sexual kind of dating, heterosexual and lesbian dating. The sites do not leave anyone out and therefore perusing the internet will find you a site that suits your needs well.

Thousands of singles join the online dating sites every single day and the exposure therefore never ends. It is of importance to be careful especially when giving out your personal details on the sites. This does not however mean that you should give wrong or fake information as you could end up ruining a relationship that could have otherwise been serious and right for you.

How Lesbians Are Using Online Dating to Find Partners




For most women, it is great being able to go out and announce that they are lesbians. It is far more socially acceptable than being a homosexual male. So women are able to get out there and meet other lesbian women pretty easy. But you can never be sure when a woman is just curious or if she is just putting on a show for the guys. And besides, you don't always want to go out there and meet promiscuous girls. You should definitely consider the lesbian dating websites if you are looking for someone who wants a serious lesbian relationship.

You can get online and find a lot of lesbian dating websites if you spend a few minutes looking. There re a number of ways in which you can benefit from browsing multiple websites, but you should stick to the one that you like best. Some criteria you should have should include a website that allows you to sign up free and browse profiles without asking for money. You should only need to pay if you decide to connect.

Saturday, November 26, 2011

Things To Talk About With A Girl On The Phone




Figuring out the right things to talk about with a girl on the phone becomes less of a challenge if you know the subjects that typically are of interest to women. Making these topics the theme of your phone conversation is not totally necessary, but it's a good idea if you find yourself struggling for things to talk about on the phone with girls. They'll serve as good conversation starters, and keep the conversation flowing.

And, certain topics can he helpful to use as "fillers" when those awkward silences might otherwise arise. Get to know some of the most common things that women take pleasure in talking about, and use them as cues to pick out things to talk about on the phone.

Many (if not all) girls have a soft spot for animals, especially those that are cute and cuddly. It's then not much of a stretch to assume that animals would be one of the nice things to talk about with a girl on the phone. Asking questions about her pet dog or cat could get her to talk endlessly about it. It's even better if you have a pet of your own, so that you can share your experiences with your pets. You might even share and exchange tips in caring for your pets. This will be a good way to build some sort of connection between the two of you.

It's also no secret that women have a great affinity for flowers and chocolates. Because of this, you can make the subject of flowers one of the good things to talk about with a girl. Do an Internet search for some of the most popular flowers, and know what they signify and how they ought to be cared for. If you execute this well enough, the girl that you are talking to may trust you enough to ask for recommendations on the right flowers that she should give for a friend who just celebrated her birthday.

In addition, gossip is something that we can consider a staple of "girl talk. " Women, in general, are intrigued by gossip relating to celebrity (especially if it involves relationship scandals). You might not feel this is a particularly interesting subject to talk about with a girl, but trust me, it works. There might be times when the "gossip of the day" isn't really of interest to you, but try to sound interested and share your views about it. Just don't express too much interest in sharing gossip, because this can make it seem as if you are a nosy, non-discreet person.

Girls also typically have a handful of television shows that they watch religiously -- weekly, or even daily. The world of dramatic series and reality shows has a massive number of female followers. These shows might not be your cup of tea, but at least try to get the lowdown on the latest story lines of the hottest shows on TV, and learn who the main characters are. This create endless things to talk about on the phone with girls, as they naturally enjoy talking about their favorite shows and characters.

These are a few topics that you can use to spark interesting conversations with women, particularly if it's a phone chat that might otherwise be awkward and difficult to move forward. At some point, they might come in handy when you find yourself racking your brain for a topic to chat about. When the phone call begins, after you exchange the opening pleasantries ("How are you?" "How was your day?" etc. ), it's up to you to introduce a topic of conversation that will interest her.

Dating Advice - Here's A Little Known Secret About Dating Women That Every Man Should Know




Many men have this weird idea that really hurts the results they get when DATING Women. This weird idea is that as a man you should take a woman out on many dates, over the course of several weeks (and maybe even months), BEFORE you sleep with her.

The men who think and behave this way, think that they are showing the women who they are dating that they really RESPECT them and don't just want sex.

What's interesting is that women don't see it that way. Now, if you ask a women how many dates she'd like to go on before she has sex with a guy, she probably won't tell you the truth because she'd worry about being labelled "easy" or something worse.

However, I'll share the truth with you and the DATING ADVICE you are about to read could radically IMPROVE your RESULTS WITH WOMEN.

So here's the secret about dating that I promised you...

The second date is the perfect time to try to have sex with a woman for the first time.

Dates three and four are also good, but leave it until date five or more and in my experience - the chances of actually having sex with the woman and starting a physical relationship with her are greatly reduced.

Now let's dig a little deeper and look at how all of this works...

The first date is not a good time to try and sleep with a woman because she will feel like you just "used her for sex" and you probably won't ever hear from her again.

Date five onwards is a bad time because things just get a little WEIRD.

Basically, women start to see you as a FRIEND and not a potential lover or boyfriend if you leave it too long before you have sex with them. Even if she is not thinking it consciously, her sub-conscious mind is starting to think:

"I've been out with this guy five times now and he hasn't tried to have sex with me - clearly we are just meant to be friends"

Okay, so now you know that date one is not a great option and nor is leaving it until date 5, let me tell you a little bit about why dates 2, 3 and 4 are the best times to HAVE SEX with a woman for the first time.

In order for a woman to sleep with you she has to feel two things:

1. ATTRACTION

And...

2. COMFORT

If a woman doesn't feel those two things with you, then (providing she is emotionally healthy)... she will not sleep with you.

Attraction can be built in a few seconds. Seriously, it really can when you know what you are doing.

But, comfort on the other hand - takes a little longer. This explains why dates 2, 3 and 4 are the best times to have sex with a new woman in your life for the first time because it has given you enough time to build attraction and comfort.

So the SECRET that so few men realise is that it is actually better to sleep with a new woman in your life AS SOON AS POSSIBLE (with the exception of the first date).

Then, all you have to do is give her GREAT SEX (including many orgasms) - and you'll have a woman who is keen to see you over and over again. Nice.

Friday, November 25, 2011

Crucial Matters Older Guys Have to Know in Dating Younger Ladies




The leading questions in the minds of older men dating younger women are the following:

• How tricky would it be to seduce a significantly younger girl?
• What do women want in a guy?
• Can a younger lady truly love a far older guy or is she just after his bucks?

For years in the past, almost all of the older guys dating younger ladies are the rich ones, and so the stigma for this union was that the girl was just after his money. Recently, this point of view has changed. At this point we understand that many younger ladies do fall in love with men that are 5-10 years their senior. These women have more emotional needs than financial ones that need to be filled, and the older, much more experienced guys could fill the void.

As for the concern about what women really need, one simply needs to look at internet dating sites to understand that women value security, a great profession, the capability to provide for them and make them protected from a life of mortgage difficulties. It really is safe to imply that women treasure these things more than attractiveness, although attractiveness and a pricey car will not hurt much. Older men dating younger women instinctively realize that a younger girl would like to get a great living wherein she will really love herself. Fortunately for these men, they have got all the time on earth.

What older men dating younger women must remember is the fact that most women desire a strong man who could hold his own, whether it's operating a business, sexual intimacy or discussion.

What Women Wish in a Guy

• The man should be ready to take his very own ground and stay confident, without having to be overwhelmingly arrogant. It is a characteristic of young people to be a hot tempered, and therefore the calm and composed guys who can manage a lot of difficult circumstances with poise can get a girl's curiosity, especially the young women who are still into hero praise.
• He should be aware that younger generation can be a little wild. He should not be overly stringent with her simply because she's still relishing her youth. Probably the most he can undertake is trust the younger woman that what she's feeling is true love and therefore she'll stay with him.
• If contacting younger ladies in dating sites or in real life, don't let the talk focus around sexual activity. Sexual activity should hold on and it will just come. Whenever interacting with younger ladies you need to project a feeling of hospitality and being lovable. And also, don't make her feel as though you are using her.

An element that older guys dating younger ladies need to face is the negative opinions of contemporary society by and large. Here's something which a woman said soon after she met, fell in love with and finally married the older man she connected with in an internet dating website:

"I was just 22 when I found my hubby. He was 48 at that time. For two years, we went out and then we looked like a bizarre couple together. Some claim I've been ridiculous and that the guy was only hooking me down until he met somebody he could be serious with. My personal recommendation to people who may have qualms around dating older men: the sex can be sporadic but incredibly great! He can be very romantic from time to time however you need to make do without having those all-nighters which other ladies talk about. My own family members don't invite us to occasions anymore but I don't care. I'm in love. "

These older men dating younger women are aware of their age and may settle down whenever certain about the girl's devotion. A woman might be sacrificing her youth to care for a much older man who is aging quickly, but when she's confident that it's true love, she is going to love each and every minute of their existence together.

How To Talk To Girls - 5 Effective Tips That Really Work




Some guys just don't know how to talk to girls. They get tongue-tied and all wound up when it comes to starting a conversation with the opposite sex. If you are one of them, you can indeed learn how to talk to girls. It doesn't have to be so difficult. Talking to a girl can be as natural as talking to one's own friend or acquaintance. Here are 5 effective tips that could help you get started.

1. Learn to be funny

It takes a certain amount of intelligence to be funny. However, it is different from being silly. Girls know that a funny guy is an intelligent one too. They love to be around a funny guy that can make them laugh and have a good time. So learn to be funny naturally.

2. Develop good body language

You can communicate a lot with your body without ever opening your mouth. Most guys do it unconsciously, but you can develop body language skills to project a confident image. When you walk around, walk slowly and confidently. Be gentle and poised in whatever you do. When you sit, don't slouch or droop your shoulders. Sit erect and exude confidence.

3. Be sensitive

When you are new to a relationship, always be sensitive in the things you talk about. Test the waters slowly before you dive in. There can be touchy issues that a girl might not want to talk about. If she avoids any particular topic, then immediately switch to another topic. Once you know her better, you can take things a little cooler. Most girls would open up quickly as long they know that you genuinely care for them.

4. Be tactful

Many guys are too impulsive and ask girls out for a date on their very first meeting. You need to understand that a girl would normally wish to go out only with a guy that she is comfortable with. So focus on building rapport with her before you even think about asking her out. Get to know her genuinely and let her learn more about you too. There will come a time when she is more comfortable with the idea of going on a date. Until that time, focus on building your relationship.

5. Find a common interest

One of the easiest ways to develop a relationship is to find a common interest. If you think about it, you and your best friends would always share a common interest. Most probably, it is the common interest made you best friends in the first place. So try to find out what her interests really are. There might be something that interests you both. It can take time, but you can eventually find an interest that you both share passionately. You can focus on your shared interest to grow your relationship. It could be the most natural way to really develop your relationship and take it to the next level.

Learn how to talk to girls effectively by following these effective tips.

I Am Heartbroken - Can I Get My Ex Boyfriend Back?




After a break up you might be left wondering "can I get my ex boyfriend back?" Maybe the relationship ended on good terms and you two are still friends. Maybe it was a dramatic split and he has broken off all contact with you. Whatever the circumstances, there are things you can do to help get your ex boyfriend back.

The first thing you need to do is be respectful of his needs and wishes. That may sound obvious, but you would be surprised at the number of women who resort to pleading or constant phone calls to try and get their ex back. If you act needy and are trying to dominate his attention he will just be reminded about the reasons that he broke up with you in the first place. Respect that he may need some time and space to get a clear head.

While you should act nice around your ex boyfriend to avoid driving him away, you should not act fake. If you are asking "can I get my ex boyfriend back" you likely still care a great deal about him. Show him that you genuinely care about his thoughts and feelings. If you cannot be sincerely nice to your ex boyfriend, perhaps you would be better off with someone you truly do care about.

Can I get my ex boyfriend back even if he has found a new girlfriend?

If you broke up and your boyfriend found someone else to start dating, you may think your chances of getting back together are over. That is not always the case. Rebound relationships typically do not last for a very long time. But you must remember the first rule - be nice to your ex. If he does have new relationship, do not act petty and try to point out all of the new girlfriend's flaws. You need to be above that and show him how wonderful you are.

Can I get my ex boyfriend back by dating another guy?

Some women try to get their ex boyfriend back by making him jealous. Your guys has moved on, why not show him you have moved on too? Dating can be a fun pastime, but is you want to get your ex back it is not the best strategy to use. It is also not fair to the new person you are dating. If they don't stand a chance of forming a real relationship with you, do not lead them on. There are many other strategies you could use to get your ex back.

I hope you found these tips useful. There are many strategies you can use to get your ex back. Best of luck on your journey.

Thursday, November 24, 2011

Tips for Skiing Singles Looking for Skiing Dates




Skiing and snowboarding for the general populace are usually not team sports. You don't need a partner to enjoy it (in fact most couples are of different levels and preferences and are often left on their own - and that's not counting the couples with a non-skiing partner!) and it's a highly sociable environment to enjoy off the slopes as well. Similarly, for skiing singles and riders s it's often difficult to find someone compatible with your ability and personality.

It's no wonder then, that couples are leaving their spouses or skiing singles are checking out for the week and enjoying time alone on the slopes with like-minded individuals. Whether that means finding the nearest mogul terrain, riding your snowboard solo or learning to snow plow; finding a ski date or partner will assure you that you have someone to share the experience with. To that end, here are a few pointers for skiing singles to consider when pairing up for skiing vacation.

Choose a location. If you have a particular resort in mind that is a good place to start. Try and keep it general so as to open up your options. Colorado, Utah and Montana ski resorts are common locations and most people are usually happy to do consider those options.

Know your skill level. If you are a total beginner (never skied or snowboarded) or a budding newcomer, getting away with a group of experienced skiers/boarders who talk in a foreign language about the sport will make you feel a bit isolated. Whats more, during the day you will watch them all go off and have fun while you are stuck in ski school. A mixed group is always preferable but try and land at least one other "newb" skier so you can have a good laugh with someone who's learning to snow plow too.

Know your strengths. If you are fairly quiet and do not enjoy the company of a big group - be honest with yourself! It would be more advisable to hook up with one other person and share a twin room in a hotel. Of course, going this route it's very important to get someone with a similar personality as yourself. You may just like a quick beer after skiing followed by a nice dinner and then it's straight to bed. There are plenty of other people that don't want to be partying down at the bar till the wee hours of the morning. Find the right person that fits your personality.

Be open-minded. You might hate vegan foods but if everyone else likes and you resist; you may come across as a little stuffy. Go with the flow for minimum hassle or offer some alternatives that others are willing to share.

Recognize your strengths. If you are good at organizing, offer to find the lodging and get rates and so forth; if you enjoy cooking, offer to make dinner a couple nights in exchange for others cleaning up etc. Trades offs make shared living more equitable.

Do some research. It's definitely worth doing some quick research on your potential roommates to see if there is any potential issues that may cause problems. Check their Facebook and Twitter accounts and see what they say about themselves and what their friends say!

Embrace your fellow winter sports enthusiasts. Don't say you only want to ride with other solo boarders or that you only ski with fellow skiers. A mixed group is more enjoyable and adds a little more variety to everyone's ski vacation experience.

Every season people all over the world meet up with others on skiing dates and share the experience of skiing and riding in the winter outdoors. Research is key and finding a good singles skiing or dating service will make your search much easier.

Dating For Baby Boomers




Dating for boomers was not always an option 50, 40, or even 30 years ago. Many senior citizens were destined to live a life of solitude after reaching a certain age because society frowned upon the idea of widows and widowers finding new love. It was almost as if they were required to mourn for the rest of their lives. Now, the baby boomers, are not reconciled to being single in their golden years. Older singles are proactively seeking companionship. Most have had long and loving relationships, and still yearn for the passion and partnership they once enjoyed. But what is the best way to go about attracting another mate at an older age?

You must feel confident about yourself when entering the dating world again. If not, you will certainly project your feelings of worthlessness at singles events and social functions. This will certainly not be an attraction factor for potential partners. If you do feel that you lack self confidence find, some techniques to help you bolster your self worth.

Give yourself a make-over or a new look. Maybe your old clothes are out of date and show your age. Get a new hairstyle, clothes, and even shoes. Make sure that these changes aren't to extreme, and compliment your current hair color, skin tone, and weight. When you know you look good, you will feel good, and certainly project that feeling to others.

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Is Time Running Out to Find My Husband: Should Marriage-Minded Women Settle?




Have you ever felt like you should just settle for Mr. He'll-Do-For-Now? Would you be able to tell if you were indeed settling? Have your friends told you that you're too picky? Are you fearful that you might have to give up on your dreams because your biological clock is ticking and you're running out of options?

As you get older you will notice that you are dating more infrequently. Don't panic! This is totally natural. You're probably already aware that your tolerance for certain people, places and things has drastically changed in the last several years. Think about your tastes in food and wine. Even that has changed. Your palette has been refined. You seek out quality as opposed to quantity. Your time is valuable so your choices have to be made carefully.

The same goes for your choices in men. It's not your age that is holding you back, it's your experience - for better or worse.

Some women have created their wish lists or vision boards. Now, I'm not against this. I just believe that life happens when you're busy making plans so it's a good idea to be flexible. The worst thing you can do for yourself is look through GQ Magazine and paste the picture of your ideal guy to the board that hangs on your wall. Remember when you played with paper dolls as a child? They were fun but two-dimensional cut outs because that was all we could handle at that time. We weren't fully developed. Our young brains could only relate to pictures and images.

The problem with creating "love life" lists is this: They create a stagnant two-dimensional picture of your future and it locks you in. Some women have already decided who they're going to marry and what their life will look like. They MUST end up with that tall, gorgeous, light-eyed dream guy from their fantasy list/dream board. He'll have a full head of hair, and be a titan of industry in some cool, creative field. They'll buy a waterfront country home, and they'll spend half their time in the city, with their 2 children and their adorable dog (boy: Jackson; girl: Chase. Jack Russell: Pete).

Here's the catch. If these women don't find their 6' 3", blue-eyed dark-haired super cool titan, do they settle for less? Do they give up the dream? Yes and no. First of all, let's define the word SETTLE. Is it settling to grow up and realize that some of those things just aren't as important to you as they used to be?

Is it settling to end up with Hank, the not-so-gorgeous semi-balding guy who works in finance, but makes your skin tingle and your heart melt? Sure he's allergic to terriers, hates living in the city, but he has a heart of gold, treats you like a queen, shares your values and goals, makes you laugh and loves your mother. (AND you have amazing chemistry.)

Settling? I think not.

Settling is giving up on your goals, values and choosing a man that doesn't treat you well or isn't concerned about your emotional and physical well-being. Settling is choosing a man out of fear because you're so afraid something better doesn't exist because you're approaching 35 or 40 and Mr. Prince Charming hasn't arrived yet. Settling is forgetting your need for great sex and passion with your partner because you think you have to go without in order to find a stable man.

Rubbish!!

Take a good long look inside and ask yourself if you have a little girl fantasy list that is holding you back.

Take a risk. Choose to be open-minded. You can never be accused of being "too picky" if your heart and mind are aligned.

Be smart, be open, be vulnerable, be honest with yourself and make your choices from the abundant and willing part of your heart. Take all things superficial off the list and focus on what is key to a lasting and healthy relationship. Let go of the arbitrary limitations of your dream board and open yourself up to the three-dimensional adventure of life. If you do, you'll get more than you ever could have imagined.

The Woman's Online Dating Advantage




Internet dating for women has come a long way since its fledgling beginnings in the 1990's.

It was a brand new idea that started rather slowly because of the number of personal computers in homes with access to the internet.

But advancements in technology, an increase in personal computer ownership in the decade and increased access to the internet, have brought online dating into the mainstream.

Dating on the web has become an acceptable way to get-together and in some respects, a more secure way of meeting a potential partner.

Dating websites give you the ability to meet people on your own terms. Unlike offline dating where location, time and other circumstances may make it seem uncomfortable and maybe risky to meet, you can engage with new people in the comfort and security of your home, all from the computer.

Previous to dating on the web, your choice of meeting new people was pretty much confined to your work colleagues, people you knew from school or people you grew up with in your local area.

But now armed with your computer with access to the web, you can reach hundreds, possibly thousands of profiles. Your world of choice has suddenly expanded to give you more opportunities to find that special person.

There are many dating sites for men and women of all ages, religion, and ethnic background. This successful growth can be attributed to the following three reasons:

1. Personal Privacy. Your name, address, online contact details, phone number or employment details can be kept anonymous, until you feel confident to release these details.

2. More Choice. Unlike offline situations, where your potential choices can be limited, you have much more choice online.

Previous to online dating, your choice of friends and possible life partner was limited to your contacts from work, school or the area where you live. But with access hundreds, possibly thousands of profiles around the world, choice is open to you to find the right person.

3. Personal Safety. Internet dating offers a level of safety. You are in control of whom you meet and who you want to contact you. Some offline dating situation exposes you to circumstances where you may not feel comfortable and maybe unable to remove yourself. With online dating, you control these situations much better, to feel more secure and in control.

Online dating services will never divulge your personal data. You can choose at your discretion who can receive your information and at the appropriate time.

Are All Women Attracted to Bad Boys? Maybe Not!




Everyone wants to know why do the good girls fall for the bad boys. The bigger question is why do some ladies find themselves unable to break free from an attraction to men of ill repute? Since this situation is more widespread than many realize, let's examine why this phenomenon occurs.

The classic bad boy became popular when it was captured in the movies and rap videos, starting as far back as the 1950's with actors like James Dean. Fast forward a few decades later to Marlon Brando and Al Pacino, who starred in those classic mafia movies, and then onto the 1990's where rappers and rock stars were being glorified as the ultimate 'thug' or bad boy. Music videos also helped to visually perpetuate the stereotype. Right now today just look at who society considers the most popular singers and actors (Eminem, P. Diddy, Chris Brown, Ashton Kutcher, Lil Wayne, etc.).

It begins with sex. Sex is a powerful, primal force. Current societal trends have created rules around sex. We've designated places we can have it and designated people we can have it with. While necessary, these rules give the impression that sex is a negative force. Sex is seen as something unbridled, a wild beast that needs to be tamed, something dangerous, something that represents excitement and a rush of adrenaline. We want to have it. Bad boys and thugs are very resistant to the law and they often challenge rules. This can read off to women that he is a man who is willing to be wild and primal, and to many of us, that's attractive and sexy. It becomes a challenge to us to want to tame the wild beast as we would like to believe that our own sex is so great that he will change or improve on his character just because it's you he's with.

Wrong!

The fallacy of this belief is that too many women trick themselves into believing that you can make this man improve on his character. You feel that despite the hurt and emotional anguish it's okay to hang on to the relationship because your sacrifice will encourage him to improve eventually. What's very unfortunate is that after months and sometimes years, what happens is that his abusive behavior has completely destroyed your self-esteem and has drained the life out of you.

In using myself as an example, after having my own dating experiences with a few bad boys in the past. I can assure to you that as the girlfriend, you are not by any means insulated from the consequences of his dishonesty, addictions, or immaturity. The bad boy types that I dated, although wild in bed, didn't have very much going on for themselves outside of that. We never truly established an emotional connection, so our courtship wasn't that interesting outside of the bedroom. These men always kept me waiting for something, gave lots of excuses as to why they couldn't hold onto a steady job, were temperamental, had no goals, and lied and cheated on me repeatedly.

In my lifetime, I have come across a lot of women who have shared similar experiences. Whenever these women would describe their past relationships with a "bad boy" they would tell me that the men were abusive in some form, had prior criminal records, and commitment issues. Thankfully none of these women were currently with those men. However, I had noticed that what appeared to attract these women to those men was the interest in dating a man who represented some form of heightened excitement that stands apart from the norm. Someone who wasn't the "nice" guy. I have virtually no fond memories about the relationships that I had with bad boys. Now that I'm much more wise and a bit older I am very happy that these relationships ended. I guess it was the thrill and curiosity that intrigued me. It was also my own lack of maturity in being able to see that I was a decent young lady dealing with men I had no business being around in the first place.

We had absolutely nothing in common and the reason these relationships failed was due to the fact that I was compromising my own sense of stability and goodness for small a taste of living on the wild side. There is a reason that our parents tell us to stay away from those types of "boys" when we're little girls.

Women want the ultimate catch, the guy who is going to treat us like a princess and love us deeply. This is not what bad boys and thugs do. The party may be fun for a while, but the thrill wears off very quickly as vain pleasure usually does. A bad boy is not interested in true love, because real love requires consistent sacrifice.

It's the nice guys who finish last believe it or not. Thank goodness the majority of us grow out of that phase and go on to choose more stable, hard-working, responsible men who are capable of becoming dependable breadwinners and good fathers. A bad boy is never someone you should reasonably hope to have a meaningful long-term relationship with.

Remember, you cannot spin gold from a pile of straw. Dating a guy with poor character, even if he pursues you, will still equal a poor relationship.

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Do You Have What It Takes To Be A Sugar Daddy?




Being a sugar daddy in general is viewed as dating a younger woman and giving her financial support in exchange for her companionship. This is because there are a lot of older men these days who prefer going out with women who are young and high-spirited than older and possibly less enthusiastic women. There are also a lot of younger women who want to date older men in order to benefit from them. If you are among those older men who are looking for a good relationship with an interesting and attractive woman to add some excitement to your life, there are quite a lot of things that you should have besides money.

Money makes things go smoothly, which is why a lot of women prefer going out with a sugar daddy. They would like to be taken to the topmost expensive restaurants, the most expensive and luxurious holidays, and to travel. Obviously, older men who are financially stable and have got quite a lot of extra cash to spend can afford to give them that, not men of their age. You know you have got what it takes to be a good sugar daddy when you have the money to spend on such things and the ability to summon up your younger spirit.

Sugar babies look for a sugar daddy who can treat them right. Although most of the time, financial needs are what pushes women to date older and financially stable men, there are also a lot of them who are looking for the right treatment that they may have not experienced from their past relationships with men of their age. If you are one of those older men who know exactly how to respect women, make them feel special and cared for, you have got what it takes to be a sugar daddy and be in a relationship that will likely end up being committed and long-term.

Sugar babies often look for older men to seek emotional support. Unlike men of their age who cannot bear listening to their "drama," older men have more patience listening and can even give women useful tips or advice on how to deal with their problems. If you have the patience for some of the dramas of inexperienced younger women, then you have what it takes to be a sugar daddy.

You are also probably going to be the best sugar daddy there is if you are able to help your sugar baby achieve her dreams and ambitions in life. A lot more than the financial support that you can help her with, she is going to need both your advice and emotional support. If you have got everything it takes to be a good sugar daddy, there is definitely no reason for you not to get started on posting your sugar daddy personals on online dating websites.

Younger women will not be able to resist all the wonderful things they can get from being your sugar baby.

How to Attract a Girl - 4 Strategies to Becoming a Girl Magnet




Some guys are lucky enough to have mastered the skills of easily attracting a girl they adored. On the other hand, there are a number of boys who are always unsuccessful when it comes to winning the girl that they like. If you are one of these unlucky boys, pay attention to the tips below as it will teach you the tips on how to attract a girl so easily.

Always Practice Good Manners to Impress Your Girl

The best way to stand out with the rest of the guys out there is to practice good manners at all times, not only when you are in front of your girl, but also when you are with other people. Doing simple things like opening the car door for her, as well as pulling the chair for her to sit down is enough to make a girl swoon over you. But remember to practice such kind manners even when you are not with your girl, because even if she will not see your kind deeds, there are a lot of people out there that could tell your girl how you are when you are not with her.

Build Self-Confidence

If you really want to know how to attract a girl, try to build self-confidence because girls like it when guys are confident with themselves, which would often show through actions and body languages. Confident guys are more charming, and a lot of girls find confident guys so hard to resist. But remember to avoid being too confident with yourself, because you might appear too arrogant in front of your girl.

Try to Look Good At All Times

Girls appreciate it when guys would make an effort to groom themselves at all times - you do not really need to be handsome for girls to like you. Just groom yourself well by dressing up in a smart and decent way, and as much as possible, clean your nails at all times because most girls hate it when boys have long and dirty fingernails. Most importantly, always wear clean and well-ironed clothes, and polish your footwear before going out on a date with your girl.

Be a Good Conversationalist

Girls do not like a boring guy, so look for ways to spark-up your conversation with your girl by talking about topics that would interest her. As much as possible, keep your conversation light and funny and also to know her well through your conversations. This is actually the time that you need to show some sense of humor and make your wits work.

These were just some of the tips that you need to know when it comes on how to attract a girl so easily. If you follow these tips seriously, you will surely be able to win the heart of the cute girl that you have been eyeing. And when the time comes that you would successfully win her heart, make sure to keep her forever.

Monday, November 21, 2011

Tips on Flirting With Women - 3 Tips to Help You Avoid Making Any Mistakes




Are you a little out of your element when it comes time for you to flirt with a woman? Do you sometimes feel like you just don't have the "chops" to flirt effectively with a woman? Well, you are in good company. This is one area where men are pretty much doomed to fail because the average guy just does not put in a lot of time learning how to flirt with women. So, of course that leads to a lot of mistakes being made.

Now, there are mistakes that you can make that don't have much of an impact on you, and then there are the ones that have a pretty big one. Those are the ones that you really want to avoid. Let's be honest about something, first. You are not going to get better in one fell swoop. To really get what you need to do to flirt with a woman effectively, it takes some time and some experience. So, don't have unrealistic expectations.

Here are some flirting tips to help make sure that you don't make any mistakes:

1) To flirt with a woman, you want to allow her to feel like it is just fun and not as if you are desperately trying to get somewhere with her.

The best flirtations that you will ever have with a woman are those where it really is just for fun and not for any end result. Of course, if everything goes well, then you probably will get the end result that you want. It's just, when you obviously have ulterior motives, it usually shows. And it usually takes away some of the fun.

2) You need to pay attention to more than just the words that come out of her mouth.

Flirting does not just happen through conversation. It happens through the way that you look at one another, the way that your body language is communicating to one another. It is important to learn how to talk to women so that they are attracted to you, but there are other elements that you need to pay attention to as well. Like eye contact and body language.

3) You need to let things run their course naturally.

The more natural that any interaction with a woman is, the better. Too many men approach women with a totally unnatural vibe and most women can pick up on that. When you allow things to run their course naturally, then you don't seem like just another guy out to get a girl.

How to Pick Up Girls Through Techniques of Seduction




You have probably seen the guy. The one who walks into a bar chooses a girl, has her laughing and enjoying herself within minutes and ends up taking her home. You know the guy right? He is called the pickup master and in this article I am going to show you how to pick up girls just as quickly without much effort.

Now keep in mind when you are learning how to pick up girls, you are going to run into 99% that are easy to pick up and then there will be that 1% that no one can pick up. That 1%, we are going to leave alone. We could care less about the 1%. What we want to do is go after the 99%. For one, they are more beautiful, sexy and worthy of your time.

To pick up the girls in that 99% group, you need to have a few things hammered out. The first area to focus on is your appearance. You need to dress for your personality. For one, you will feel more comfortable that way and two, it describes to the girl who you are and what you can offer. Someone who walks into a bar wearing Armani clothing, but driving a Kia, is not going to be able to pull off the look. So dress for your personality.

The second thing you need to learn in how to pick up girls is confidence. No man can be successful with a woman unless they are confident. You don't have to be tall, muscular, smart or anything else society tells us to be. But you do need to be confident. Confidence will win the day over a guy with money and looks. Trust me I know this for a fact. I am short, average looking and don't have much money, but I have dated beautiful blondes almost twice my size. Why? Because I have confidence ten times my size.

The third thing you need to learn in how to pick up girls is body language. You must learn this last piece to win the girl over. Body language can get a girl into your bed faster than any other method out there.

There are two parts to body language. One is exhibiting the kind of body language girls melt for and the second part is being able to read the girl's body language to expect what move to make next. It is not a hard thing to learn. Once you understand the underlying reasons why certain things work and others don't, the correct way to do things will become like second nature.

These are the three things to learn in how to pick up girls. All you need to do is master these three things and you increase your success rate with girls 100 percent. There are those that might speak negatively to what is read in this article. Yet in the same token, these are the men that are somewhat successful with women. Those that take this information to heart and act on it will be the true winners in their relationships and also in their ability to become intimate with a woman of their choice.

How to Get a Man to Want You - Try These Techniques to Get the Guy You Want




Do want to know how to get a man to want you? Do you have your eyes on a guy and wonder what it will take to get him to ask you out? Would you like to become more attractive to more guys? Almost every single woman who is not in a committed relationship would like to know the answers to these questions. Here are some techniques you should learn to be more successful in getting a man to want you.

Get Noticed

Obviously you can't get guys to want you if you don't get their attention. There are several ways you can do this. If you want to get attention from guys you need to make sure you are out and about where guys are to be found. Next, you need to look your best when you do go out. You don't need to dress up but you do need to dress carefully. Put on your makeup, make sure your hair looks good and look your best. Not only does this increase your visibility, it is also good for your confidence which is another thing that attracts guys.

Don't Be Shy

If you are too shy you look unapproachable, or at least difficult to approach. When a guy is thinking about approaching a girl, he is going to make a fairly quick decision about whether it is safe for his ego or not. If you look like you might be hard to talk to, he may pass on talking to you even if he would like to. This is especially true if he is with a group of friends. Many guys won't risk looking awkward in front of their buddies, so make it easy for him to meet you.

Be a Great Listener

One of the secrets to attracting people to you in general is to be a good listener. This is especially true when talking with guys. Most guys want to dominate conversation. That's OK. Just make sure you don't tune him out. Show interest and ask questions. In the early stages of relationships some advisors say you should be 80% listener and 20% talker. You can adjust that according to the personality of the guy you are with. But in general, it is a good idea to let the guy do most of the talking. That way you are showing him that you find him interesting and of course this appeals to the male ego.

Be Interesting

Another rule of human attraction is that people are more attracted to interesting people. What that means is that we are drawn to people that are embracing and enjoying life. Guys aren't like they used to be when all they wanted was a mother for their kids and someone to cook for them and clean their homes. These days guys like women who do some of things they like to do. In fact, you should consider trying some things that not all other girls do, like learning to skateboard. You'll find yourself out amongst a bunch of guys and you will be about the only girl out there. Talk about not much competition! Think of something you might enjoy that girls don't usually do and you might find yourself in a pretty exclusive club where you are surrounded by guys and not many other girls.

Practice these techniques and you'll find that it is not that difficult to get a man to want you. Not only that, you'll probably find that you are making more friends and having more fun than you ever thought possible.

Sunday, November 20, 2011

How to Make Out the Right Way




So it is the end of the night and the day went well. You are saying you last good byes to the woman who spent a rather nice evening with you, yet you don't really know how to kiss her or how to get her wanting more than just a kiss. Making out begins before the evening ends. It is a gradual process that ends up with you kissing her for a considerable amount of time. It could also lead to more than kissing.

There is a right way to do this and a wrong way. I am going to teach you the right way in how to make out. Take notes and practice what you read here. It has to be done just right or the expected results will be less than expected.

Meeting a girl for the first time or going out on a date for the first time is basically the same thing. The girl will be guarded and not feel comfortable with you. If you come across as only wanting sex, then she will pick up on that and not want more than just a sweet goodbye.

To avoid this, you need to make the girl feel like you are already her boyfriend. How can you do that on the first date? It is really simple. You listen to what she is telling you and then put yourself in that situation. For instance, she may shop for groceries at a certain store. You can say something like this, "Wow, you shop there too? So do I! It is amazing we never ran into each other. This means fate must have brought us together!" You just completed step one in how to make out. Let me further explain below. There is a second part to this.

What you have done is put yourself into her past. She is now thinking that if fate should have brought you too together, then you are the perfect person for her. But you are not done yet. To get her comfortable enough to make out with you, there needs to be a little bit more effort put into this. After doing this next step in how to make out, she will be putty in your hands.

Here is the next step in how to make out. Ok you already got her use to you by making her think you belong in her life. But you have not really physically put yourself there. To do this you need to touch her. But there is a certain way to touch her that will close the deal and have her ready to kiss you and probably do a whole lot more.

Boyfriends act different than guys that met a girl for the first time. They do things like wipe sleep from a girl's eye or wipe bits of food off their lips. You will need to do these things. In the middle of a conversation with her, lean over and pretend to wipe sleep out of her eye. Say, "Wait a minute; come over here for a second. Let me get this for you." She may be a little "weirded" out, but done worry. The touch has sparked something in her.

Now after an hour or so, tell her to come over to you again and wipe something off her bottom lip. The lips on a woman are an arousal zone. Not only are you now in her thoughts, you have set off a longing sexual sensation.

Now that the evening is over and you are ready to say your "goodnights", her intentions are different. She is ready for kissing and most likely a whole lot more. You just learned a potent secret in how to make out. Use it responsibly.

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