How To Charm A Woman: 3 Qualities You Need To Develop NOW

I learned how to charm a woman the old-fashioned way, and it wasn't fun. Months of trial and error, falling down, getting back up... having stuff backfire right in my face. That's what I'm here to save you from. My embarrassment is your gain.

Before I get into the 3 most charming qualities on the planet, and how you can develop them within yourself... let's answer a question:

What does 'charm' even mean?

Charm bracelets? Lucky Charms?

To cast a spell?

Well, that last one's actually not too far off.

See, to 'charm' a woman simply means to attract her... and yes, in a way you ARE putting her under a form of spell (but it's got nothing to do with witchcraft, I promise).

OK, now that we've shared a laugh and broken the ice...

...what do you say we get to those 3 'charming qualities'?

Quality 1: You Can Make Her Laugh

Nothing is more charming to a woman than a man who can get her giggling like a school girl - and not only that, but do it over and over again.

So, how funny are YOU?

You either are or you aren't... but if you're unsure, it's easy to find out:

Just ask a friend.

And if you find you're NOT too funny, here's what you do:

-- Watch standup comedy, and take notes (no, I'm not kidding).

-- Just practice finding the funny things in absolutely every situation that you find yourself in (trust me, it's there).

-- (If you've got a funny friend) Glue yourself to his hip.

It's unreal how much you can learn about how to charm a woman - just by spending some time with a friend who's got a great sense of humor.

Quality 2: You Mind Your Manners

Believe it or not, chivalry (in other words, being a gentleman) is by no means 'dead'.

And it doesn't take a whole lot of effort to reap the rewards, either. Open doors for her, pull out her chair as she's about to sit down... little stuff like that.

Don't feel like you've got to lay it on super-thick here... this is one of those situations where a little goes a long way.

Quality 3: You're Ambitious

Finding your ambitions is CRUCIAL in figuring out how to charm a woman.

What do you live for?

More than anything else, what gets you out of bed in the morning?

If you could do anything with your life (regardless of whether you're PAID to do it), what would it be?

YOUR unique ambitions can be anything, really... and those questions are a great place to start. Another way to find your ambitions is to look at your hobbies.

For instance, I love playing the piano... I'm a fitness freak... AND I've been an avid golf for over half of my life (on top of whatever I'm doing for actual income) and that's been PLENTY ambitious enough for me to have no shortage of women.

So find your ambitions... find your passions... and you'll have no trouble learning how to charm a woman.

How To Find Love (Or How to Find a Boyfriend or Girlfriend)

In my research for my new website I have been looking at the most searched romantic words on Google. One of the biggest is the word Dating, with over twenty million searches per month. One million people are searching specifically using the word love. This suggests that there are a lot of people out there who are looking for a partner. That is why, in this article, I would like to focus on how to bring a partner into your life and start a successful relationship. If you are in a relationship already, some of these ideas will still be useful, but if they are not directly relevant, I would be grateful if you would pass this article on to your single friends.

Having spent quite a few years of my earlier life as a single person, I know what it feels like to desperately want a partner, but to be unable to meet anybody or to take a relationship beyond the friendship stage. At the time I would be attracted to women, and they would like me, but they never wanted to be my girlfriend. Unfortunately I concluded that I was unattractive and unloveable, and this made me even more self-conscious and lacking in confidence - it became a vicious circle. At times I thought that I would never meet anybody and yet I knew I had so much love to give and receive. I guess this kept my spirits up until I discovered the real reason I was single.

I wasn't on my own because I was unattractive, badly dressed or unloveable - I was on my own because deep down in my subconscious mind, that washow I wanted to be. I came to this astonishing conclusion after several years of self-development work, which involved looking at my self-beliefs. Central to this was the belief that I would be happier on my own, or more accurately, being single would protect me from the emotional pain that I knew subconsciously would rise to the surface in an intimate relationship. This pain was coming from a belief that love is a source of pain, and the fear that if I allowed myself to love somebody fully, I could not stand the pain of any subsequent rejection, or of losing them. But in getting down to this fundamental fear around love I discovered another highly destructive layer of negative emotion that was making it impossible to find a partner and form a relationship.

As I looked within at my self-beliefs I began to realise that I was full of guilt. This had started in my childhood around not being able to help my parents with their own life challenges but had grown into a general sense of unworthiness. Although I was outwardly successful at school, college and work, inside I was carrying around a feeling of being bad. When it came to romance and dating this was a disaster because the guilt made me feel terribly self-conscious and shy and meant that I was afraid of getting into a relationship in case my partner saw my faults. Ironically, I did eventually find a partner who became my wife, but my lack of self-worth meant that I was not emotionally available to her and she eventually left me. I then had to face the rejection that I so feared and the agony of losing love.

Of course, the love was never lost, because love isn't like that. Love is always present because it connects us all, and it was coming to this understanding that allowed me to move my life forward and start healing my negative self-beliefs and sense of unworthiness. If you are single and long to find a partner, ask yourself the questions I asked myself. "Why would you not want to be in a long-term, committed relationship?" - "What benefits do you receive by remaining single and independent?" Go beneath the obvious conscious desire for a boyfriend or girlfriend and find out what it is in your past that has made you believe that you do not deserve a relationship, or it you did get into one, that it would result in emotional suffering. Somewhere in your past you will find an incident or period where you turned away from self-love and acceptance and decided that it was too risky to get yourself into an intimate, healing relationship.

As you become aware of any negative self-beliefs like guilt and inadequacy that you are holding, you will be able to make new choices about yourself and the way that you understand love. This will help you to grow your self-esteem, which is the key to attracting a partner and having a successful relationship. This was exactly the process I went through in my own healing (which is still ongoing of course!). As part of the awareness I gained, I also discovered another amazing thing. Although I was holding myself back from a relationship because I felt guilty and unworthy of love, this was not the most fundamental issue. As I stripped away the guilt and healed it, I found that I was afraid of my capacity for love - afraid of just how big my heart was. This deeper fear seems crazy, but I know that it created all my other negative self-beliefs.

So, ask yourself one final question, if your are single (or if love is lacking in any way in your relationship) - " Am I afraid of my loving heart - am I defending it? If you sense that you are, you can heal any guilt, inadequacy and unworthiness very easily. Simply embrace your gift of wholeheartedness and open it as fully as you can, and as often as you can. This will reveal the real, loving you, and there is nothing more attractive than somebody with an open, undefended heart. If you can do this, it will bring a true partner into your life. Your open heart will then keep it on a healing path. Thankfully this was my own experience of healing guilt and re-opening my heart, having defended and closed it down for some many years.

Dating Tips for Guys What to Do in 3 Key Steps

When dating women, it might be a bit complicated to understand how to approach a woman and what to say. You will not know what they want from a guy until you start talking. Not knowing what she may want in the beginning is fine because you will find out what she wants eventually.

So read on and understand these dating tips for guys.

There are simple things you can do when dating. The simple things you do that apply to most women will get your foot into the door. Being mutually attracted to each other, liking each others personalities and being yourself during dating will increase your chances of a successful date.

Dating Tips for Guys - What to do in 3 key steps to increase your chances of a second date.

Key Step 1: "Attraction." It is obvious when starting to date, there has to be mutual attraction for a possible connection. It doesn't mean both people have to be attractive to be attracted to each other. Basically, being drawn to someone based on the initial appearance of what is initially seen.

What you initially see might be how the person presents themselves or how they act around other people. Men are usually attracted to a woman's looks before anything else. If she is attractive and appears to have personality, he will probably approach her.

By how she looks and acts, will give you an indication if you might be interested in her. Women usually look for the same thing initially. Attraction is the first step before making contact.

Key Step 2: "Personality." You can get an idea about a woman's personality is just by watching how she interacts with others. It can give you a good indication beforehand if she possibly is someone you might be interested in.

When approaching a woman that looks interesting; hopefully you bring your personality along with you. You may have an idea about her personality. She may not have seen you before, so making a good first impression is important.

You want to have a personality that appears to be interesting or she won't be interested in you at all. You don't want to monopolize the conversation or appear like you are conceded. Otherwise, the conversation will be over before it even gets started.

After there is mutual attraction between both of you, there needs to be enough personality between both to make the conversation flow smoothly.

Key Step 3: "Be You and Honest."

Being YOU is very important when dating. If you don't act yourself initially; you may be in for a big surprise. After several dates with the same woman without being yourself; it will not look really good for a possible future with her. She may think you are not real and may think you are a liar.

It is important to be upfront and honest while being yourself. Women know men are not always upfront and honest initially. They may not think about the future or even worry about it as they may not be able to see past the first date until it is already the second date.

If you want to pursue a relationship with a woman; it is important you show yourself honestly. If you have secrets that can affect a relationship, it is best to have them out on the table to avoid hurting her.

You do not want to mislead a woman for your own benefit. If you are not honest with what you want initially; you may hurt her. Be who you are and have the right intentions before dating someone. You would probably want her to be honest with her intentions as well so you are not misled either.

These are simple tips when meeting and dating women. Being mutually attracted to someone is the first step in dating. A woman's personality and your personality if mutually desirable is the second step in dating. The final step in dating is being you while being upfront and honest with her. All three of these key steps combined will help increase your chances of having a successful date.

Of course, not every date will go as you may hope that is what dating is all about. By following the same dating tips for guys when dating, it will help you find the one that is a better match for you.

Interracial Dating in the Black community Today

Looks to me like Black men and women are having problems in the current of the apparent difficulties of finding and dating of the same race. Searching for an eligible candidate of the same race has its difficulties for both genders. It has been for a while now and with the advance in online dating in the last 5 years has seen the widened circle of choices to even more national and international possibilities.

When observing the interaction, between Black genders there seems to be a lack of interest in courting, dating or harvesting the patience essential in the process of selecting the appropriate partner for our lives.Many of us men especially - in the Black American community are slowly becoming more and more apathetic to concepts of relationships and marriage. 

Picking Up Women - Become A Master With These 5 Tips

The art of picking up women is one that can be learned easily, yet most men are clueless about the right techniques of the game. You don't need a magic potion to get a woman anytime. All you need to do is learn the basic rules, practice them, build on your experience and become a master in the art. Do you want to master this art? Then let's get started with the basics.

Picking Up Women Tip 1: The Place- This first basic rule may sound quite strange to most men, but it's probably why many would-be masters of the game don't get it right at the onset. Avoid approaching women in places like night clubs and bars where the competition is high and the intents could be obvious from the start. Instead, make your attempts at less competitive places like coffee houses, parks, bookstores, boutiques etc. You'll be surprised at how increasingly successful you'll become at this.

Picking Up Women Tip 2:

The first impression- Ones you get to the venue look around quickly to see if there's someone you like. Find a seat around her, greet politely with a mild smile as you take your seat or position around her. Start out in a business-like manner like asking for your coffee in a coffee shop for instance. By the way, you also want to be sure you dress and smell nice. You definitely don't want to ruin your chance at being successful with a bad first impression. Do you?

Picking Up Women Tip 3:

Build up trust- One of the biggest secrets to do this is to try to build up trust as quickly as possible. Before you start out a conversation or approach get her to have a feeling of trust from you, and you can be sure she'll extend the same to you. If you meet her at a coffee shop for instance, you could tell her to watch your sit and coffee for you while you use the restroom. Appreciate her kindness on your return and this would make her more approachable, and a conversation can easily develop from this point.

Picking Up Women Tip 4:

Start the conversation- This is the point where you get into the mainstream of action in your attempt. After all, isn't it all about conversation? So you open in a natural, friendly, comfortable and relaxed way. Talk about something connected to the place of meeting, like the taste of the coffee, the settings of the place, their services etc. Close the conversation once you connect with her and are able to find a reason to see her again. For instance something you can do together. This should be a reason to get her number or contact.

Picking Up Women Tip 5:

Take your leave in style- Give an excuse like being late for an appointment to take your leave. Make it look like you had to sacrifice a few minutes in your conversation with her. This would leave her with the feeling that you value her company but you're not an idle needy person yourself. It would increase her desire to see you again as well as wanting more of you.

There you have it; five nice steps to picking up women. Learn them and put them to practice, and you'll become a master in this art in no time. Go ahead, enjoy your experience!

Tips to Impress Your Date on The First Date

Being a man finding the love of your life is never easy. Men are considered as emotional rocks that remain unmoved irrespective of the challenges they encounter. On getting rejected men are supposed to move on with their life. But, life is not as simple as it sounds. Even a guy who dates a lot of girls may find himself lonely because of the fact that it's tough to establish the kind of connection that girls look for. Here are some dating tips for your first date that might come handy to you in such situation:

1. People say looks don't matter much. But reality is that looks are important and the edge that first impressions can give you is unimaginable. First impressions depend on how you look and what you wear on your first date. So, always make sure you dress appropriately and behave well on your first date.

2. Try to impress your date with your personality and avoid showing off your material possessions. Keep in mind that material possession may not last forever. So, try to impress your date with your behavioral qualities.

3. Try to get to know her. Show interest in whatever she feels interested in even if you find it boring or less interesting.

4. Do not ask for her cell number. If she thinks you should have her number then chances are more that she will give it to you even if you don't ask for it.

5. Pick a location where you can communicate with her well. Avoid locations where there is loud music and remains overcrowded. This will help you to make fruitful conversations with her.

Above all, you should behave like a gentleman. It can be a tough task to keep yourself organized on your first date but it's certainly possible.

How To Kiss A Guy - Kissing Tips For Girls

It happens to girls all over the world every day... You're seeing this guy that you like a lot and you really feel like kissing him and although you think he would like to kiss you as well he has not tried kissing you before and you are not sure how to kiss him or what to do. Does this sound like you?

Kissing a guy, especially for the first time can be a bit worrisome. It's normal that you don't want to mess it up and it becomes even trickier when you think he wants to kiss you but is too shy to make the first move.

The good news is that it's not difficult to learn how to kiss a guy and although there is no substitute for experience here are some solid kissing tips that will help you to get off to a good start.

Tips And Advice On How To Kiss A Guy

1. Try to relax.

Kissing is fun, enjoyable and easy. You have nothing really to worry about. If you are too nervous before kissing him you will give him mixed body signals that he may interpret as meaning you are anxious, afraid and don't want to kiss him. Just try to take it easy and be yourself.

2. Don't be afraid to make the first move.

Normally a guy will make the first move. However, there is nothing wrong with you making the first move if you think he wants to kiss you but is just too shy to take action. If you both feel like kissing but neither of you do anything about it then it only becomes awkward.

3. Take it slow and easy.

If you have not kissed him before your first kiss does not have to be a long and passionate French kiss with lots of tongue probing. A gentle peck on the lips can be a great way to break the ice and to let him know how you feel about him.

4. Pick the right time and place.

Always try to kiss him in private. You don't want his or your friends staring at you or making fun of you. Kissing him in public may make both of you more nervous and he may also not be at ease kissing you in front on strangers.

5. Set clear boundaries.

Boys often see kissing as a means to an end or the first step towards getting more intimate with a girl. Decide in advance how far you are prepared to go and don't hesitate to tell him if he crosses a boundary.

In addition, some boys have a real problem with wandering hands and enjoy groping. If this happens just take hold of his hands and either hold them or place them on your hips.

6. Personal hygiene is important!

It does not matter if you have a spot on your face or if your hair is slightly messy but make sure your breath smells fresh and that you don't smell of sweat.

7. Go easy on the makeup.

Try to avoid using makeup such as powder that may easily rub off on his face while kissing him and although no guy likes to kiss dry, chapped lips be careful if you use lipstick. He won't appreciate having red lips after kissing you!

8. Go in for the kiss!

When you feel the time is right look into his eyes and at his lips and just lean forward to kiss him. Tilt your head slightly to avoid you bumping noses and close your eyes just before your lips touch. Pull back for a second, look into his eyes and if you feel like it lean forward and kiss him again.

If you want to deepen the kiss just rub your tongue gently and playfully between his lips and wait for him to open his mouth slightly. If he opens his mouth use the tip of your tongue to caress his tongue. Don't just stick your tongue into his mouth and don't push it in too deep.

By following the above tips on how to kiss a guy kissing him should be fun and memorable.

Handle Your First Date Jiters

One of the most grueling experiences in any relationship is likely the first official date. You're finally one on one with your romantic interest, and the spotlight is on you. The relationship is full of possibilities, and it can be very easy to get excited about them, or overwhelmed by the idea of making them happen. No matter how many first dates you have experienced, each one is different. The only commonality is probably your first date jitters.

Anxiety is something that everyone experiences as they get ready to take on a new challenge. You can be sure that your date is feeling at least a little anxiety as well. This feeling is often irrational, and brought on by considering all of the ways that things could go wrong, or wondering how things will go right. The good news is that as the duration of your date increases, your anxiety will continue to decrease. You'll get more comfortable as your spend more time with your date, and those jitters will be a distant memory as you begin to enjoy yourself.

Most people are the most anxious right before they meet their romantic prospect for the date. This is when the mind starts truly racing, and all of the events that you've imagined become real. The best thing that you can do is take a few deep breaths, try to empty your mind, and meet your date. If you are still feeling anxious about your date, here are a few ideas to keep in mind:

1. What's the worst that could happen? Sure, your imagination could get the better of you and the worst that could happen could be something along the lines of a gaping hole swallowing you up while you stand embarrassed in front of your date, but be realistic when you think about this. Think back on other first dates and really consider the possibilities. At worst, perhaps your date won't be that into you, might not have a good time, or you'll embarrass yourself by saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. These are all things that you'll forget about in time. You might even look back on them and laugh.

2. If all else fails, this isn't your last first date. Wouldn't it be great if the night goes off without a hitch and your date turns out to be the love of your life? That's the best case scenario, and likely the entire reason you're dating in the first place. But even if the date ends early and you never see each other again, this date isn't your last chance at love. There are plenty of opportunities to meet new people, and while you might experience first date jitters all over again, you could find someone suitable to your personality and your needs.

3. You can't plan for everything. Are you thinking about the first kiss before you've even met your date at the door? If you've planned out the perfect scenario, and the first kiss to best all kisses that came before it-you've just added a lot of pressure to yourself and your date. It's a good idea to know where you're going to go, and what you'll do, but don't sweat the details. You can't control everything, and trying to do so will only add stress to your situation.

4. The first date doesn't have to be a major event. Despite what Hollywood movies may have you believe, the first date does not have to be filled with elegant venues, deep conversations, and perfectly-timed shooting stars. It's ok to keep them casual. Casual dates mean you have to worry less about what you wear. If you're worried about not having anything to talk about, opt for a movie or a trip to an art gallery; this will give you plenty of material. As for shooting stars, if all goes well, you'll never notice if they did or didn't appear.

5. If you're still that anxious, it is OK to let your date know. If the jitters are really getting to you, chances are that everyone around you can see it-especially your date. Instead of trying to cover it up, tell your date. Try to make your admission sound as positive as possible. "I'm a little jittery tonight because I'm so excited to spend time with you," is a very flattering statement. Honesty can be endearing. Your date might even admit that they are anxious as well. A couple of laughs later, you can get to your date and try to focus on other things.

Online Dating - Questions to Ask a Girl You Like Online

Just imagine you have just joined an Internet dating website. You have gone through all the formalities and time-consuming steps that it takes to join this online dating service. That was the easy part.

Now you need to start communicating with the female members that take your fancy. Sometimes it can be a little scary when confronted with the long lists of women that appear when you are browsing or searching via keywords, and you might find it hard to narrow the choice down. But there is a way to do it, and it applies equally to totally free dating sites as well as ones that you have to pay to become a member.

The best way to go from a hundred online dating candidates to five or so realistic ones is to ask questions. And plenty of them. But what should you be asking?

One of the best dating tips for men in this regard is to pretend you are a boss looking to hire a new employee. It sounds a bit unusual to be treating a woman dating candidate this way, but it is highly effective and has been proven to get great results. And don't feel too uncomfortable, because you can bet your bottom dollar that the woman you are contacting (or who are contacting you, if you have created an awesome profile) will be marking off your qualities against a check list of her ideal features in a man.

Here are a sample top five questions to ask a girl you like online, with explanations of why you should be asking them.

1. How long have you been a member of this dating service?

If she has been on the site for more than two years, chances are she is a serial dater not focused on finding a life partner. But anywhere up to this time shows she is serious about finding the right guy by being patient. Or she may just want to use the site as a fun way of meeting guys.

2. What do you want to get out of this site, a long-term relationship or casual fun?

This may seem very forward, but if you have to whittle down several hundred potential dates, you have to cut to the chase quickly. The answer she gives you will be vital - depending on your own goals.

3. How many guys have you been out with that you met on this site?

If she dates every single guy that contacts her, she may be a little bit desperate. On the other hand, if she has been a member for some time and only dated a very small number of guys, then she may be so fussy or demanding that you are never going to please her.

4. How many of those guys did you get intimate with?

This is a question that you should ask after you have been communicating with the girl for some time. If you ask this question on first or second contact, she will think you are a pervert or just plain rude. Nevertheless, it is a question you need to ask, even if only from the point of view of protecting your health if the relationship develops.

5. What is you favourite book?

Some guys normally go for the favourite band/singer/movie question, but if the girl is a reader, you will find she is also much more fun as a conversationalist. If she can't answer this question, then, if you really like her, then try a pop culture question.

Of course, there are many more questions to ask. Some of the best of these are:

What is you favourite food?

Who is your favourite comedian?

What are you career expectations?

Is money important to you?

What does family mean to you?

Have you ever been to jail?

Do you believe in love at first sight?

Just remember, if online communication stalls, fire off an odd-ball question to keep the interest level up. Girls love a guy who shows an interest in them.

How to Work Through a Breakup

Breaking up is a difficult time in anyone's life, especially if you're the one being left behind. This is a time where you may feel shaken. You're losing your routine, your security, and maybe even the person you felt was closest to you. It is easy to feel lost and confused about who you are and what you have.

Break ups happen to all of us. Even celebrities can't escape it, and they don't always offer the best examples of coping either. A recent example is the Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moor break up. After this very public relationship ended, the media has shown the actress's attempts to move on. She has spent her time being treated for stress, battling what she calls a "love-hate relationship" with her body, even out partying hard with her daughter in Hollywood.

When going through a tough split, it is important to give yourself a lot of self-care. Getting out and trying new things can be exciting and a way to cope with the loss short term, but it is important that you stay grounded and focus on your emotional needs. Instead of engaging in activities that are against your nature, here are a few constructive ways to work through a break up without losing yourself:

1. Take time to grieve: The end of a relationship, especially one that existed for a long time, is difficult. It can feel like you have lost a part of yourself, and marks the end of certain routines and interactions. Take the time that you need to deal with this end and all of the feelings that come along with it. Experience your anger, fear, or sadness and work through them. Don't push your feelings away. Everyone's response will be different, but eventually you will be ready to move on.

2. Re-focus your energy: You probably have a lot of time on your hands now that it is all your own. Don't let this time go to waste! Instead of curling up on your sofa and lingering on thoughts of the past, take this time to put your energy to good use. Focus on cleaning your house, organizing your bills, going through your closet, or any other task that needs to get done. Clearing out clutter will do double duty-your environment will feel refreshed, and you can even take the opportunity to clear the emotional items from your area. You don't need to bump into constant reminders.

3. Get active: Even if hitting the gym isn't your usual afternoon indulgence, this is a good time to start. Aerobic exercise has great emotional benefits. It can truly lift your mood, and if you exercise at a moderate intensity five times a week-it can be as effective as an antidepressant. ( http://www.revolutionhealth.com ) Since you're reeling from a change to your daily norm, this is a great time to begin new routines.

4. Spend time with your friends: Now is the time to take advantage of the support group in your life. Friends and family want you to feel good, and to get back on your feet. Let them help you! Whether you need a shoulder to cry on, a sounding board to talk to, or someone to take you out on the town, the people closest to you will help you get there. Now is not the time to stay at home all the time and dwell on the break up.

5. Spend time with yourself: Even though you shouldn't spend all of your time alone, you will need some time to regroup and reflect on the changes. Take this time to create a space for yourself, work through any new feelings, and focus on your needs.

6. Eat healthy: Post-break-up is almost synonymous with emotional eating, but this is not the time for a gallon of ice cream or a bag of Doritos. Others respond to this sad time by turning away from food altogether. Neither route is a good option for your mental or physical health. Good nutrition will contribute to your mood and your ability to stay positive in the long term. Food rich in omega-3 fatty acids can help improve your mood while green leafy vegetables provide beneficial nutrients to help fight off depression. Not even your favorite flavor of Ben & Jerry's can boast that!

7. Maintain structure where you can: It might feel like it's OK to let a few responsibilities or chores slide post-break-up, but it's really important that you stay focused on your life right now. Keep at least some of your routine on track. Fill the disrupted area with activities and interests that make you happy. It's a great way to meet new people and move on.

8. Remember that you are not defined by your relationship: At the end of a relationship, it can be easy to lose yourself. You might feel like you don't know who you are without your partner, or that you aren't worthy as an individual. Instead of letting these feelings take root, focus on what you have, who you are, and what you can do. You might want to write down your good qualities, or make a list of things in your life that you are grateful for. It can help you remember that you can and will move on when you're ready.

Coping With the Paradox of Online Dating

A lot of people say that online dating is a good thing as it lets them choose their potential partners from a relatively wider range. But with this option of variety comes a more subtle hassle - how do you pick the best one of the lot when there are so many people to choose from? There is this constant voice in your head which tells you that if you browse a little longer, you might find someone better than the one on the current page. This, here, is what we call the paradox of online dating. When there is more to choose from, dating becomes even tougher.

So how does one cope with this dilemma? Going back to dating in the conventional sense obviously is not an option as online dating was a replacement for that in the first place. The best advice one can give in such a case is to roll with the punches. We need to identify the main reasons of wanting to date online - are you looking for a long-term relationship? Do you just want to hook up with someone for the night? Do you want to hook up with someone on a regular basis and yet keep it casual? Knowing what you want is very important. Only then can you define the criteria of approaching the online dating populace.

Whatever be your reason for wanting to date online, remember one simple rule - everyone has a past, which includes you as well. If you are looking for a lasting relationship, honesty is one of the key factors. However, you need to know how to pace the flow of information. What we mean is, no one likes to know about how you felt when your second grade teacher scolded you, on the first date. If you have some personal things that you would want to share with your partner, do it only when you both trust each other. For those who are venturing out into the online dating world only for a short fling, these things do not matter so much.

Having said that, it does seem to be a good idea to do at least some sort of background check on a potential partner you meet online. With the extensive prowess of the social media in today's age, it doesn't take much time or effort to look into some details of an unknown person before you actually meet up. Once you have all such areas covered, you can confidently stride out there in the virtual world and start looking up your options.

Who Is SEXTing Anyway?

"SEXTing" is a term that gets thrown around a lot these days. With technology so readily available, it was only a matter of time until our sexuality made its way to our cell phones. SEXTing refers to anyone sending sexually explicit messages or racy photos to partners, peers, or the public; this trend originally referred to use of cell phone cameras and messaging, but now encompasses email and social media transmissions.

This racy trend has gotten the attention of the public, including law makers, parents, teachers, bosses, and most people who are in relationships. Many people, ranging from teenagers to mature adults, are using SEXTing to attract the attention of a potential partner, spice up their sex life, and even engage in cyber-affairs. What seems to be an innocent flirtation might be more onerous than some people think. Negative effects of SEXTing include:

· Photos or videos meant for a private audience can be shared among others

· Digital images leave a footprint online. Once pictures have made their way online, it can be difficult or impossible to remove them

· Some SEXTing is currently illegal, especially if committed by someone underage.

With such obvious negative possibilities, you might think that this act would be left to the young and fool-hearty. In fact, SEXTing was originally thought to be a problem just among teens and the younger generation. The popularity has since spread and now it seems like everyone has at least thought about it! So who IS still SEXTing?

Teenagers: This age group is making headlines with how quickly they've taken to this trend! With an abundance of smart phones and cameras filling high school halls and popular hang outs, it's no surprise that teenagers are hot and heavy in the SEXTing scene. A study by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, as well as CosmoGirl magazine, suggests that about 20 percent of teenagers ages 13 to 19 have shared nude or semi-nude pictures of themselves via text messages or by posting them online. This study shows that teen girls are more likely to share their explicit photos than boys; 51% of teen girls who were polled reported that they receive pressure from boys to send these messages.

One of the many sticky situations SEXTing teens can find themselves in revolve around the fact that underage SEXTing is illegal. This falls under creation, distribution and possession of child porn, is a federal offense. While some politicians understand that children will make mistakes and are working to change this, others are actively prosecuting those taking the pictures and those receiving them!

Young Adults: The SEXTing craze doesn't end with age. In fact, it only increases in popularity. The CosmoGirl study suggests that approximately 33% of people between the ages of 20 and 26 have shared their suggestive photos. A study by USA Today suggests that the number is closer to 59% of young adults who are sharing these via text. The images may also be more explicit than those sent by teenagers, but they are circulated in the same methods: via texts and online posts.

Women: The trend across all age groups, including teenagers, young adults, and mature adults, is that women are more likely than men to send nude photos and sexually explicit texts. Married women are regarded as especially vulnerable to SEXTing affairs; experts think this is because women often feel as though they are being taken for granted by their husbands. Whether they are bored with their sex life, looking for a new source of empowerment, or a new vessel for appreciation, women are definitely involved in this trend.

Men: While studies seem to suggest that women send more SEXT messages, men are just as likely as women to receive these messages. While they may not be as active a participant, men are certainly included in the SEXTing trend. In fact, men may view this as an innocent way to explore their sexuality; if they don't regard SEXTing as cheating, it may seem like a safe alternative to an affair. As far as adult SEXTing goes, it's men who seem to be making the news headlines: Remember Anthony Weiner's Twitter exploits?

Where Can I Take a Woman on a First Date? Your Questions Answered!

Okay, so you just asked this amazing girl out and she said yes. Now what?! Where should you take her?

This is probably the most nerve racking part of the first date, the location. And trust me, it DOES make a huge difference. In this article I am going to go over some places where you should and should NOT take a woman on a first date. If you are at all interested in getting to that second date, then you are probably going to want to read this.

Where Can I Take a Woman on a First Date? Your Questions Answered!

Anywhere But Dinner and a Movie...

Okay, well not really "anywhere" but I think you get the point. You want to stay as far away from the generic date night as possible. And taking her out for a dinner and a movie is probably as generic as it gets.

And you are not being smart by switching it up and taking her to a movie and then dinner. Just stay away from both of those for a first date.

If not, you will be at dinner awkwardly facing each other as you fight off the urge to turn the date into an interview just to dodge those awkward silences.

When I refer to an interview, I mean you will start asking her every little thing about herself, as if she is applying for a job (ie. Where are you from? Where do you live?).

And if you think the movie will be a bit better, you are definitely wrong. The both of you will feel this awkward tension since you will not have a clue when a good time will be to "make a move" and she will be wondering when it is coming the entire time.

The Mall

The mall is a great place for a first date. There are tons of things going on, tons of external stimulus to keep things interesting. In other words, you will not have to worry about those awkward silences because there is always something to draw her attention to at the mall.

Another great thing about going to the mall for a first date is that it conveys that the date is not a big deal. And it also tells her you're fine with starting things off very casually, with no pressure for some sort of serious relationship.

There are also a few games you can play at the mall for fun. For example, pull out the change you have in your pocket and the two of you can search for the coolest thing you can buy for that much money.

Take Her Outside

The outdoors is a great place to take her on the first date. Just make sure you know what you are doing with regards to the activity. You want to show her that you are in your element in the outdoors. This will go a long way in conveying that you truly are an Alpha man who isn't afraid to get a little dirty to have fun.

The Growth of Online Dating

The internet can be used for many things. We typically go online to do such things as pay bills, transfer money, look up the score of the game and look for a movie time. However, more and more people are also now going online to find true love. It used to be that finding a boyfriend or girlfriend online was the sign of a desperate person. This type of dating was typically made fun of, but that is not the case anymore. In fact, there are more than forty million Americans have tried an online dating site at one time or another. Two of the more popular online dating sites include eHarmony and Match.com. eHarmony claims twenty million users while Match.com boasts fifteen million.

Overall, the online dating industry has boomed in the recent past. This is because more people now have access to high speed broadband than ever before and are finding it easier to get online. In addition, more people may be tiring of the bar scene and believe that they stand a better chance of getting a good match when going online. As a result, the online dating industry is now worth over $1 billion each year. It is even bigger than the porn industry and many in the porn industry blame online dating for a sharp decline in their revenues. Even the mobile dating market is growing and is now worth over $550 million per year, but is expected to be worth $1.3 billion by 2013. All of this money comes from the approximate $239 that each customer spends each year trying to find Mr. or Mrs. Right.

However, not all people who are on online dating sites are actually looking for love. Research shows that one in ten users are scammers. Research also shows that not everyone is successful when it comes to finding their soul mate. One in ten users will leave the dating site within three months.

On the other hand, when a match is made, it tends to be a good one. The average courtship for an online relationship is 18.5 months while it is 42 months for couples who found each other without the use of the internet.

Of course, one of the biggest concerns about dating online is that you don't have to be totally truthful about yourself. In the online world, men tend to lie about their age, height and income. Women, on the other hand, tend to lie about their weight, physical build and age. However, most online daters say they are attracted to someone else because they have common interests. Meanwhile, only 49% of users say they decide to meet someone based on that person's characteristics from photos or videos.

Last year, more than 17% of marriages were the result of a relationship that began online. As more people turn to the internet, this is a trend that will continue for years to come. It will only be worth more in the future and hopefully, there will be plenty of future marriages and love connections as well.

Does She Like You? (3 Signs She Craves You!)

"Does she like me? Should I ask her for her number? Does she want me to kiss her yet?"

These are the questions that seem to constantly be floating through a man's head when he is in a conversation with a woman who he is attracted to.

It's an age old problem. Most men just do NOT know which signs to look for when a woman is into them. But if that is your problem, then this article should be a great solution. Below, I will outline three of the most common signs that women will give off when they are into a man. Read on.

Does She Like You? (3 Signs She Craves You!)

Those Eyes

The eyes are truly the windows into a woman's soul (in fact, the same goes for you which is why body language and eye contact are so important in the dating game).

Strong eye contact alone does not mean she is attracted to you. But when she is "smiling with her eyes" it is a clear sign. So what exactly does that mean?

It's simple: If a woman is into you, she will hold strong eye contact while having a relaxed smile on her face.

Leaning In

This is a classic sign that a woman is "locked in" to you. If her body is fully facing yours and she is leaning into you during the conversation, it is a sign that she is interested in you and eager to get to know you more.

When the interaction hits this point, don't be afraid to make some physical contact. Just make sure you take it slowly and gradually make more and more intimate contact.

Her Chest

Her chest...you know...the part of her body that your constantly fighting yourself from taking a glance at while talking to her?

Well, here is something most men do not know: when a woman is into you, she will WANT you to check her out.

In fact, she will do subtle things like fiddling with her necklace and slightly pushing her chest out so her breasts seem more luscious and are easier to notice.

Did you know that high heels were invented as a means of accenting a woman's rear end and chest? Take a look for yourself next time you see a woman in heels.

Not I think it's pretty obvious, but I will say it just in case; if you think a woman is into you, you don't want to go all "caveman" and start blatantly staring at her chest. It needs to be done tastefully, or you'll set off some alarms in her head.

How People Can Make Sure They Stay Safe Whilst Dating Online?

Dating online can be a fun, interesting and efficient way to meet many people quickly. A person can post their profile on a Monday, and by the weekend they can have one or more dates. As long as your follow a few simple principles, meeting people online is as safe as any other way of dating.

Choose a reputable site. The site should protect everyone's anonymity by allowing members to exchange emails through the site only. Look for a site that allows you to block offensive members and removes members who violate site policies.

Avoid members who ask for a private email address within the first one or two e-mails. There is no reason to venture off the site with a stranger. Take as a warning sign anyone who wants to get to know you too quickly on a personal level.

Read your profile over carefully, making sure no personal information is inadvertently disclosed. Have a friend read the profile to provide an objective opinion. Steer away from discussing children or listing specific places worked. Post pictures that are taken in public places, as opposed to photographs taken in a private residence. Do not post links in your profile to personal websites or social networks.

Most sites require members to choose a username, rather than posting your real name. Make sure your username does not contain your first or last name or year of birth. Mary75 is a poor choice, however Sunshine111 is both neutral and friendly.

Exchange one to three emails before arranging to meet in-person. Ask the person you are interested in about their interests, hobbies, background and history. Making questions fun and playful, allows a person to gather a lot of information, without coming across as intrusive.

Arrange to meet dates in a public place. Having coffee together is an ideal first date. Avoid alcohol and focus instead on really getting to know the other person. Bring a mobile phone to use in case of emergencies. Don't leave your drink or purse unattended. Take the same basic safety precautions sensible when meeting any new person. Be safe, but look forward to having a pleasant evening.

A face-to-face meeting in a casual atmosphere is a safe way to begin dating. A first date should be a brief meeting only, where neither person has to share their last name, address or other personal information. Drive yourself home, even if the first date goes really well.

If the first date goes well, many people exchange phone numbers. Giving a date a mobile phone number, as opposed to sharing a land line number, is a good choice as mobile phones cannot be traced to a physical address. Take time getting to know the other person.

Do not loan money or give someone you do not know well any money to make financial investments, even if lucrative savings are offered. Continue to meet in public places for the first two or three dates. Someone worth getting to known will be patient, allowing trust to build over time.

7 Habits of Highly Attractive Women - Insider Tips on How to Become the Woman Every Man Wants

What is the difference between the woman who can attract any man at will and someone who always ends up getting her heart broken into pieces? Women who are successful at the game of dating & relationship follow certain rules which a lot of women aren't exactly aware of.

Most women want to appear attractive to the opposite sex but usually don't know how to achieve it. Let me share the 7 most important habits of highly attractive women...

Habit #1 - She never chases any man...

An attractive woman never pursues any man even if she is strongly attracted to him. She understands that it's the man's job to do the chasing. And the very fact that she never chases anyone makes her even more attractive in the eyes of men.

Habit #2 - She is highly independent...

She is someone who doesn't depend on a guy to provide for her either emotionally or financially. She knows that she can take good care of herself and the world owes her absolutely nothing.

Habit #3 - She places a very high value of herself...

She is a woman who is completely comfortable in her skin and knows what she wants. She is someone who never talks bad about others or herself. She never competes with other women as she understands that only insecure women do that.

Habit #4 - She never settles for anything but the best...

She doesn't lower her preferences even when she is lonely. She doesn't just date any man and doesn't jump into the sack with any guy. She knows that she deserves the best and is always willing to wait for the right one to come along instead of lowering the bar.

Habit #5 - She is very honest & always direct...

She is not scared of presenting her point of view even when she knows she might face a lot of opposition. She is someone who isn't really concerned about what others think of her. She doesn't seek anyone's approval or appreciation.

Habit #6 - She isn't scared to walk away when her principles are violated...

She is someone who never lets a guy walk all over her. She isn't scared to walk away when she believes that one of her boundaries is being crossed. She doesn't stick around just to keep the guy comfortable.

Habit #7 - She always makes a man wait before he gets to see the goods...

She is not into short term flings as she understands the long term consequences of such acts. She always makes the man wait for sex no matter how good of a catch he is. She always gives her self dignity a higher priority in every situation.

She is someone who is highly responsible and always thinks things through before acting on them.

Valentine Gifts That Commits Your Babe

Valentine's Day is a great day to remind every person to show and express their fondness to each other. Normally, most people are awfully busy with enjoy the day with their partner. Many are also busy in finding some unique ideas to make their valentine special and impress their sweetheart. They want to do a little unique that tend the day remarkable. Valentines in just close and those who want to make the day something nice for a person who is much special for your life, you must present some beautiful greeting cards to them with a stick of red roses. It is nice way to express your feelings. Find some of dazzling valentine's day cards with well design and already writing some warmth words. It is available in great ranges and you can easily obtain it from local stores as well as online. Online source is really wonderful because you can find here in abundance. Get some cards and present to your love with articulate some loving words.

Many historic tales are deeply related to this love festival from origin of day to some dreadful events. The valentine's day massacre is also deeply related to this festival. It is most terrible day because on this day, some armed men were shouted to some people who involved in celebration. Apart from this terrific act, you can enjoy it also on this day mingling with some friends and close ones. You must find some ideas how to play massacre and you want also turn it some funny and entertaining. So, just follow some idea to play this game. The fun terminates much special by playing this shows and it will be also cheerful for you and your friends and associates.

If you want to say your feelings to your love with some impressible way, you must express inner feelings with valentine's day quotes that put its effect in hugely. The quotes are just like the bread and butter during any special occasions. It is valentines, just find some well meaning quotes and send it to one whom you care most. It sounds line but sometimes few inspiring words are just sufficient to articulate your fondness of love. You can find such quotes easily on net as your desire.  valentines day songs

This love festival is usually gives chances to express your fondness and love to your partner. One of the best ways to state your love is valentine's day songs that really give lots pleasing to you and your partner. If you sing it personally for your partner can be really wonderful moment for you both. Several beautiful songs, you can find easily on the internet. Find some popular songs to impress your sweetheart with singing yourself. It helps also your partner turn affectionate to you. It can be little romantic and entertaining for you both. If you have ideas to enjoy valentine's day recipes with your partner, must prepared yourself to cook some delicious recipes. You should find some ideas and help before planning to make any recipes. You must try to cook some delicious food as likes or dislikes of your love and enjoy recipes with her/him by sharing lots of things.

Online Dating Golden Rules

Many people make some exceedingly commonplace mistakes when using online dating sites, and in this article I will give you some tips to make things simpler for you. Most of them fall into the class of 'common sense', but you would be surprised what number of people don't consider these things.

First tip is to draft more than a few words on your dating site profile page. Writing something like 'Just ask' or 'hi' isn't going to get you the results which you desire. Folks expect more. Write at least four sentences and really attempt to 'sell' yourself by writing something fascinating and unique. You need words that capture the reader's attention, so don't write tasteless and repetitive text.

A 'trick' here is if you do not feel assured writing the profile info, get a chum to help you. Or look on other folk's profiles for inspiration. You may want to cut-and-paste somebody else's profile information, and change one or two details to suit your situation. Remember though that you should not give fake information in your profile, so if you borrow somebody else's text, make sure you customize it and make it a precise reflection of you.

Russian Wives are very Family Oriented

Russian Wives are naturally very family orientated and much more homely than most of other ladies from the USA and Europe. And Russian women generally put family above career or anything else. They never can sacrifice their career in the names of their family without any question and hesitation.

In comparison to some "masculine" ladies, Russian Wives are never oppressive or abusive, but rather soft-spoken. But at the same time not silly and submissive who cannot stand up for herself when injustice is done.

As it is said in one of a world famous poem of the last century: "… There are women in Russian areas…. Beautiful faces, queen's walk, who would dare to stop a running horse, who are not scared to enter a burning house." So basically all such qualities are in Russian blood and taken root since many centuries before.

How To Attract Girls - Bait, Hook, Reel, Release, Along With Relationship

Here's an amazing approach that I created. Okay, I'm lying. Mystery came up with it. But it is an incredible trick and it functions seriously nicely once you want to understand how to attract girls. It is known as Bait, Hook, Reel, Release.

This approach works most likely about 70% of them time, yet just before you start making use of it, you'll find some things you've got to understand. Once you just take it out of Mystery's theory book, it does not function as-is in actual life, and you'll find a couple of reasons why. The initial cause will be the problem with the releases, along with the second is that you'll need a third R he does not mention - Connection.

Baiting is when you are fishing for info. You can utilize a question or even a statement to get this info. The mistake lots of guys make is the fact that they ask too many concerns and then it turns into a bad interview. So, let's get started having a easy one, like 'Are you adventurous?' Or if you want to make it a statement, you could say, 'You seem like a seriously adventurous person.'

Russian Women are like Character of Fairy Tales

Russian Women are considered to be the most beautiful ladies on the planet. They are like the character of fairy tales - very strong and beautiful. If your plan is to find your future happiness & wife among thousands of beautiful Russian girls you also need to know who they are, what their cultures are, how is the mentality and how their life style is?

Russian women lifestyle.com services will put its focus on differences that often lead to confusion and misunderstandings in your dating, the mentality, culture differences and lifestyle of Russian women.

The Russian women have in general developed themselves over times as well. For example as the old term and myth – Russian mail order bride – indicates that you simply can order Russian brides similar to a catalogue this term gives a lot of disrespect to Russian women these days. Russian brides are often very highly educated, smart and intelligent and also they valuate family values very high. Russian women are not looking in particular to find their future husband from a foreign country. They are looking for their future husband and soul mate in general.

Dating Advice for the Single Women

It is a fact that most single moms will feel guilty about dating a person after being a mother to a child. This is a common feeling in most women, which is leading them to suffer to some difficult conditions in their normal life. It is hard for a person to imagine life without a life partner, which indeed affect the life of children by creating an impact on their minds. Hence it is vital for single women to find their love even after being a mother to a child. However, some women find it to be difficult to date other as their mind will make them stay away from dating. Some women feel difficulties to date as they do not have an idea about dating tips and instructions. For such women, visiting parents dating websites would be effective as they can find a lot of tips and information for dating.

Today, there are a number of parent dating websites out there in the internet world that are offering their services to the single women to find a perfect man. For this, they just required to form an account in these parents dating websites, which will make way towards a perfect man. Many of these websites will help women who are facing difficulties to find a better person by also advises. Hence, choosing to make use of these websites would be an effective one for all single women to get rid of their difficulties by filling with love and affection.

One can get useful advises that can help them to manage several unwanted situations that commonly arises while dating. One of the most important tips while dating is to look good and simple always that can attract men while dating. It is important for single women to be honest all the time and needs to avoid any sort of argument as it might affect the dating plans. An important thing that most men look for in their women is her understanding nature in different situations. Understanding nature and flexibility are most important things that women must pose in order to make a successful parent dating with men.

Women need to pose flirting skills, which can impress the men every time, even when they are moody and dull. Flirting is important for not just men but, it is important for women who find difficulties in finding a good person as their life partner. Single women should never talk about their ex boyfriends while dating a new person as it will not be helpful for a successful dating. Not but the least, women needs to ensure that they are a good kisser as it will make the men run for women all the time. These are some of the tips and advice for women for making a successful dating with men.

Online Dating: Find Your Potential Love Interest

It is a known fact that today people do have time for their personal life and not many people frequent pubs and bars to find an ideal date. However, people have found a new and modernized approach to help find a perfect mate. The advancement in technology has given rise to online dating which has taken the world by storm and has provided them with a new dating ritual. With the advent of internet, the dating world has changed completely.

The world of online dating has given people a chance to connect with people across the world. So now people can talk to others without leaving the comfort of their homes. Today, every generation seems to love this method and has become ideal way to satisfy their socializing needs. One of the best aspects of internet dating is the fact that a person can find a loving partner with whom he/she would be compatible. They can specify their likes and dislikes and they can give the other person a detailed personal profile. People have the liberty to join a dating service or post a personal advertisement.

For many youngsters, it is a well known fact that an internet dating service is an online community for people to interact with one another. Meet old friends, make acquaintances and make new ones are some of the common activities that these sites offer. However, for those who are interested in finding life partners, online dating websites also help to find one's soul mate. Some of these internet dating services require a person to subscribe to their website. This is because they assess their members before a person is allowed to join.

For this purpose, a new member will have to fill in a form and answer questions about themselves. The question asked will help the site create their personal profile and help them find an ideal match. Proper precautions are taken by these websites, which will help protect you against identity theft and will block users from unlawful online practices. Also, some websites ask users for a monthly payment which is quite reasonably priced. Most of the websites offer people a chance to write about themselves and note their talents.

It can be a notable fact that a number of people choose to consider internet dating because numerous people are already involved in its process. So technically put, the more the merrier. Hence people will be able to find an ideal match without any hassles. Taking into consideration of all these factors, people have realized that online dating is the best way to find an ideal match. It is a well known fact that most of the people on these websites are looking for a life partner. Hence these websites are meant for people who wish to find their potential love interest. What are you waiting for? If you too are in search of love, log on to any of the reliable dating sites available on the internet.

Possible Hindrances to Joining Dating Sites for the Matured and Elderly

Love does not come easy for many individuals. This is a common phenomenon that grips the world today as it has in the past; more so today when individuals are more caught up with building a successful career than building a family. Hence, dating opportunities are missed out; dating priorities are sidelined. Many successful career individuals end up alone and lonely. Many start to ponder over their twilight years. Fortunately, there are dating sites which can assist these matured and lonely individuals. However there are obstacles along the way.

Progressive technology

Although matured and lonely individuals may want to spend time and make the effort to get on some social interaction in their latter years, it may be difficult for some to get into the rope of events. Dating sites abound for them to join and take on some online social interaction but many matured individuals may not be comfortable with computers and technology.They may belong to the older generation that left the developing technology to the younger generation as they continue to put their heads into books and papers. Hence, they are ‘left behind' in technology. It takes great effort to understand and use the computer along with the technology with ease as the technology continues to evolve today at an even faster pace.