Asking a girl out can be one of the most challenging things for most men. There is always the probability and fear of being rejected by a girl. Rejection in reality is no big deal, believe me. Any successful person has experienced rejection before, its how you deal with it that is the ONLY thing that matters. Guys sometimes make the mistake of not asking out of fear of failure but I tell you this. There is no such thing as failure if you change how you perceive what you are doing. There is no such thing as reality only perceptions and your perception of yourself is the only thing that matters. This is especially true when it comes to women. Furthermore taking the risk is essential you need the practise and experience when learning the art of attraction with women.
Your aim should not be to get a yes from her your aim should be to create attraction with her, this is all you need. If she says no but she is attracted to you then you have already won. Does this make sense? If she is attracted to you and you know it, how easy would it be for you to ask her out again at another, possibly more appropriate time? If she is attracted to you then nothing she can do will change this, she cannot become un-attracted to you, it is not possible. Your aim and only aim should be to learn the art of building sexual attraction with women, everything else will follow naturally, easily and effortlessly.
First step is to look good, move, walk, talk, and exude confidence. Confidence is not something you have it is something that you CREATE within yourself. I am sure you can remember times when you were more confident then others. Learn how to create the correct state of mind and confidence before you approach women. Looking good doesn't mean wearing expensive clothes or haveing an attractive face. It means present yourself in a clean, smart well kept and well presented manner. Go to the gym not to get big muscles but to reflect to women that you like to take good care of yourself. Quality women are not looking for muscles and superficial good looks they are looking to see if you take care of yourself and take pride in your appearance, if they see this they will then make the assumption that you also take pride in other areas of your life. Do you see the difference?
Men are attracted to women physically so they often make the mistake of thinking that women are attracted to men the same way. This is simply not true. You can't just stand there and look hot and expect women to approach you, its not how it works. Women look much more deeply at the overall package and looks are only one small part of the overall package that they are looking for. This is why it is common for an unattractive guy to have many attractive women and much less common for ugly chicks to get the hot guy. This is a massive advantage for all men, it is gods gift to YOU as a man. I hope you can read in between the lines as I am basically telling you that you can have virtually any girl in this world that you want if you make the effort to learn the skills to develop rapport and attraction with women.
Girls are attracted to guys who tease light heartedly, it reflects confidence, humour, fun and makes them feel comfortable. When dating or meeting a girl you like, tease he, make her smile, make the whole thing a playful little joke and not a serious big deal. This can help you in conversation as she will feel more comfortable. It also eliminates the whole preconceived ideas and pressures associated with dating and meeting members of the opposite sex. It lets her know that you are cool and lightens the whole atmosphere. You want to have a comfortable and effortless atmosphere in order for things to flow more easily and naturally. I have heard it said that if you can make her smile then you are 90% there, I agree. If she is smiling then she is having fun and if she is having fun then that means that you are fun and fun is attractive to women.
While planning to ask a girl out, you should always wait for an appropriate time there is no such thing as "the perfect time" however you can obviously time it appropriately. Avoid disturbing her when she seems to be busy or spending time with her friends or colleagues. This is the time when most guys get rejections. The best time to ask a girl out is after she has become sexually attracted to you. Makes sense doesn't it? If you don't know how to create sexual attraction with a women then you absolutely must learn. This is the single most important thing that will change your life forever. Once she is attracted to you and you know from her subtle little smile or eye contacts, body language, head movements, neck, hair touching ETC. Then just casually make a suggestion to catch up or tell her your plans and "invite" her along, no need to ask for anything. Just do it at an appropriate time such as when she gives you a nice little look or smile or just naturally throw it into the conversation. This my friend is how it is done effortlessly and naturally.
I wish you the best of good luck in learning the art of courting and all your future endeavours.
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