How To Be In A Good Relationship....
is what you have asked every person who you interact with, and all because you seem to be confused about romance. I mean, you ask yourself all the times: Why do people lie in relationships?. And why can't they just love one person and be done with it?. Believe me dear friend, I am with you. But the main reason for all the troubles of relationships is that people do not know how to effectively communicate. You know the old saying: Say what you mean and mean what you say?.
And all this stem from the ability to speak properly what is deep inside the heart, the mind along with the soul. For it has been said, whatsoever is inside a sponge when you squeeze it, is what will come out. Nothing else. Deep the sponge in milk, then squeeze it and only milk will come out.
And the first easy way to be in a good relationship, is to always test someone's heart. I mean, squeeze that person and see what will come out. Because remember, Out of the heart the mouth speaks, even when only joking. So you test your lover or potential lover, by asking questions in different forms, different ways, and at different times sometimes serious and sometimes jokingly. Because the heart and the mind are sponges once again, and what is inside them is what will come out always. Case and point: Once a cheater, always a cheater. Once a wife beater, always a wife beater. Once a filthy mouth, always a filthy mouth. And how many times have you had someone at work who wanted to insult you deep from within their heart, and he or she used a joke to do it in front of everybody. That person used the Smart Politics to tell you what is in their heart. Because he or she knows that if you see through it and get mad for being insulted, then everyone around can see that this person was only kidding and make you out a monster. But if you take it well, then that person finally got to tell you exactly just how he or she feels using the power of words.
Second easy way to be in a good relationship is to Never Run From Yourself. And what I mean by that is, if 3 people you have been with who have never met each other, all tell you the same things as they are breaking up with you; then you have a problem in those categories. And you running away, to run into a new relationship is only taking you with you, and sooner or later whatever you were doing before will only be done again. So learn to Control Your Behaviors . Notice I did not say Change. Because people do not change, it's just an easy expression that people use, like: Oh I have changed. No my friend, what they are really trying to tell you is that, they have learned to control their behaviors and have set up safeguards to prevent them from acting that way. For even in the scriptures, God tell you to run from sins. Because He knows that once something is inside you ( Like a sponge ) then you will only keep acting it out over and over again. Hence this is why you do the things that you do over and over, and over again. So start today to set perimeters for the areas in your life that you have problems with. Kind of like an Alcoholic or a Drug Addict, they always do well when they set up parameters to protect themselves and control their behaviors. Like an alcoholic will not take the way home where there is a bar, or the drug addict will not drive by the neighborhoods where the dealers do business. And that is how they are able to say they have changed, but again, only really learned to control their behavior. So do the same thing for yourself.
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