Approaching Women Directly - What To Do With Neutral Reactions

Approaching women directly is easy to do. If she's not interested, you tell her 'have a nice day' and walk away. If she is interested, you've got instant attraction and intrigue. But what is she gives you a total neutral reaction?

What Is The Neutral Reaction?

The neutral reaction comes in a variety of styles. One is the deer in headlights look. You get this one a lot with daytime pick-ups. You give her a direct opener, and she just smiles and stares and doesn't have anything to say. What happened is you just freaked her out. She wasn't expecting it and she doesn't know what to do, and now she's waiting to see what you'll do next.

What To Do

This is not a negative response; it's just her being quiet and kind of stunned. But it makes things tough because she's not giving you much to work with. If you get this reaction, step back and give her some space, and start on some rapport-building conversation; nothing intense, just chatting. This way, you can ease her back into socializing. Once she's responding, transition her into something else.

Help Her Out

Another way to handle the neutral reaction is to playfully guide her and tell her what to do. There she is staring at you like a deer in the headlights, and you say, 'Okay, this is the part where you tell me your name.' This is done playfully. You're smiling and being cool about it. Then, start building rapport. Leave the attraction material until later or you'll only freak her out more. Wait until she's ready for it.

What NOT To Do

Lots of guys mistake the neutral response for a negative response. They get nervous and start laying in to their pick-up strategies. Now she's gone from surprised and a little bit out of her comfort zone to completely uncomfortable and looking for an emergency exit.

When you get the neutral response, it's best to just ease up a little. Focus your efforts on building rapport and getting her comfortable before you start any attraction building at all. She's just not ready to have a conversation yet.

Just like every indirect strategy, your direct approach should have a Plan B for dealing with every kind of reaction. Approaching women is about feeling them out and choosing the right strategy. When you get the neutral response, don't get nervous; relax and get her relaxed.