How To Get A Girl To Like You For Your Natural Self

So, you've come here to ask me, "How to get a girl to like you", right mate?

A Hard Question To Answer Properly

Honestly, I haven't asked myself this question for such a long time that I had to really put effort into this article to articulate my thoughts into practical advice. Yes, that means that my initial reaction to such question was just to brush you off with the cliche "well, this is such a natural thing to do! Just be yourself!".

Problems With Traditional Dating Advice

The problem with the conventional dating advice is that it is impractical. Most of the time, when you see TV shows and other guys telling you that you need to compliment girls, make them feel special, and all these sorts of things, they are either deliberately telling lies to you, or they just don't know what they are talking about themselves.

There is also good advice out there, most of the time given by men who are already successful with women, but most of the time these tips are very ambiguous and very hard to apply in the real world. For example, what will you make out of these tips: "Just be yourself!", "Girls love confidence!", "Just be cool!"? Yes, alright - you just go out there and "be cool" (very impractical advice).

I challenge you to do something different. Instead of doing all of these things, I want you to get a bit from both sides of the spectrum.

Work On Both Your "External" And "Internal" Game

The first side is the "external game" - that you need to look good, work on your career, make sure you say the right words. Yes, they can be important for some guys - some of us are just wired that way that unless we achieve something of importance of us, we don't feel fully fulfilled, and thus, we don't feel "confident".

For that, I recommend you that you ask a friend whose style you admire, for example, and ask him or her to help you choose new clothes. While looks don't matter, as you will see for yourself later as you get more experience with women, they help a lot when you are still a newbie who lacks good social skills.

Another thing I recommend you is that you work on your "inner game". From now on, I forbid that you ever be hard on yourself. If she smiles at you but doesn't stop to talk to you - it is not a sign that she brushed you off as sometimes it was just a test, or just a silly part of the whole flirting dance! You gave up - you lost the game.

That means that you need to always assume that girls like you, whatever her initial reaction to you may be. You will be surprised how many interactions you turn around this way.

Also, you will be surprised, if you ever get out to a bar or a club with other guys, how many times guys "shoot themselves in the foot" - girls clearly liked them, but since these guys never assumed that they deserved the girl they would just leave the interaction even if it was going very well.