I want to give you some long distance relationship advice as well as some normal dating tips. Learning how to pick up and seduce girls is not rocket science. I mean, you walk up to someone you like or you think you might have some chemistry with, you have a bit of a chat and... you take it from there.
Easy, right?
Exactly.
The question is, though, why do so many people fail at getting that date they desire? Why are we as guys almost completely unable to be ourselves the moment we start interacting with a lady? Is there a switch that flips on and off inside of us or something?
The answer is that... we're not comfortable with who we are.
See, It doesn't matter if you're cocky, friendly, funny or boring. It doesn't matter if you're tall, short, big, small, well built or a chopstick. If you feel good about who you are, if you have that passion about life, if you really enjoy yourself and what's going on around you, you're going to have no problem whatsoever getting the women you want.
It's really incredible if you think about it.
I mean, as long as you take care of yourself, no matter what your situation, and you have something you feel crazy about, it will be very easy for you to get that girl.
Why is that? Because women crave passion! This is something you're going to hear about in both long distance relationship advice seminars and regular dating coaching.
They want more than just good looks and money.
They want someone who will take them from their ordinary lives and make them feel special. Even if they are seeking just a night with a guy, well, they definitely want passion in that one night.
If women don't think you are passionate or don't feel passion when they're around you, you have no chance.
What is passion, anyway?
The thing is, you can't just go up to a girl and give her passion. It isn't like that.
Passion comes from within, and it's something you share with another person. It's in your personality, in the parts of you that make you you. It's the drive behind the things you do, why you enjoy things in your life, and the way enjoyment shines out of you.
It can manifest as confidence, humor, intensity; it shows up as a bunch of different things. It's basically just exciting and it's something people want to be around.
This is exactly what women are looking for, you see? They want someone exciting and full of passion, because being around a person like that makes them feel great.
On the other hand, if you don't like yourself, if your life is just a boring streak of endless working hours, if there's nothing around you that really excites you, then no matter what you do, no matter how many dating courses you go through and how many pick up artists you pay to train you, you'll always struggle.
Why?
Because girls don't want a guy who's going to deliver the smoothest pickup line. They don't want a person who's going to take them to the fanciest restaurant in town.
They want someone with a spark in their eye. Someone who knows what they're living for. Someone who really enjoys what they're doing. They want ambition and fun.
A nice car isn't so nice when you're not driving it anywhere or doing anything with it.
Women would rather be with a man who drives a so-so car but goes on exciting weekend trips or simply out with them at night than with some guy with a Porsche in his garage.
Your inner game is the fire in your life that gets you up in the morning. It's your confidence and how you have fun in your life.
Your outer game is your new suit and your car.
Both are important, but you need to work on your inner game for your outer game to matter. Outer game will only get you so far.
Get excited about your life. Or just change it!
No matter if it's long distance relationship advice you're looking for or regular dating tips, you are probably sitting there, thinking to yourself:
It's all fine and well, but what if I do have a really boring life? What if I do hate my job? What if there really isn't anything exciting going on around me? How am I supposed to bring passion to the table if I don't have one thing to be passionate about?
There's just one thing I can possibly say to that, and that's change your life.
See, it's you who's in charge of what's going on around you each day. It's you who's calling all the shots so...
...if there's something you don't like about your current situation, just go ahead and change it. It really isn't difficult, but...
...it takes guts. And that's why most people don't change things in their lives. They don't have what it takes. Or they don't realize that changing is as easy as they make it.
If they're already in a place where they want or need to change, what's the worst that could happen? If your job is making you miserable, how much worse would you really feel if you quit to find a new one?
I bet you'd be shocked at how free and awesome you'd feel if you got up one day and made those kind of changes for yourself.
At the same time, you probably do have a thing or two that you're excited about or at least interested in.
Otherwise, why are you getting up every day? To make money so you can pay your rent? No, there's other things in your life that you are living for. Find what those are, even if they are small - like your favorite dinner at a restaurant, or this dream you've always had of going to Italy - and really embrace them.
You have the chance to take control of your life.
You can completely reinvent the kind of life you lead.
Muster up the courage to change jobs, move, join a gym, go traveling, and do something rash.
Whatever it is, you can do it. Take the time to discover the things in your life that you are excited about.
Highlight them.
It will really restructure your life, or at least the way you think about it.
Now, the great thing about putting your life in order is that if you really do make the effort necessary to do it, you'll develop your personality in such a way that you'll become pretty much irresistible to women.
You'll have all of these exciting things about you that make you who you are. Your inner game will be developed. You'll have stories and jokes and just fun things that will draw people toward you; men will want to be your friend, and women will want the slightest chance to be with you.
You won't need pickup tricks.
You won't need anyone telling you what to do. Throw away those useless DVDs and books giving you long distance relationship advice. Don't listen to people's bad advice.
You'll be strong, you'll know that nothing is too hard for you, and you'll live a great life filled with fire that every woman will notice. You'll be able to finally determine what really turns you on... and live it.
What's more, that's exactly what will turn the women around you on as well, so...
...go work on changing your life a little if you have to. That's where it all happens, and it's where you need to put your energy.
The rest will come naturally, even if you don't have much dating experience. Just use this long distance relationship advice.
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