Online Dating - Eliminating Profile Prejudice

Nobody who falls in love does so according to a checklist of requirements. Picture this, you take the train to work and look around to see if anybody takes your fancy. Yes one or two cuties get on, one sits too far away, but perhaps one sits within your view. You take a quick glance and they look back at you at which time you quickly put your head back in your book, popping up occasionally for another look. You know it's never going to happen, definitely not on the train anyways, you've been here hundreds of times before. You get off at your stop and walk the ten minute trek to the office; you pass three or four potentials on the way despite the fact that they may not at all be like your ideal match you still find them attractive. Sigh, just brush it off as a passing fancy, there will be more tomorrow and maybe one of these days you'll bump into the right one.

This is real life. You see people every day that you might find attractive, whether it's on the bus, the train, walking in the city or maybe at the office, but you never talk to them because it's just not the thing to do, or maybe just not a thing that you would do. In the course of any given week you may pass hundreds of potential partners, who you will never get the chance to know and although you have an image in your mind of your perfect partner, you are well aware that the vast majority of happy couples did not match up to each other's idea of perfection. Still they are ideal for each other, even with all their flaws. And herein lie the lessons we should learn from real life.

People can't be matched simply because they both like walks in the park, animals, children, and the colour blue or beautiful sunsets. The tons of useless profile questions answered on dating sites hundreds of thousands of times a week by hopeful souls does not have the slightest chance of matching them with the right person. They can only match them with people who like the things that they do, but what good is that. You can join your local book club if you like discussing novels, but it is a given that you won't fall in love with most of the other members because they like books also. People match for reasons that are undiscernible to the human psyche. It is still one of the greatest mysteries known to man; hence the world never tires of poets and writers who explore the gnawing pain of lost and unrequited love. So then, to find love online, the first step is to abandon profile prejudice.

This means forsaking all those dating sites that use these methods and turning to a dating site that provides a more real world experience.

You may or may not find someone using the traditional dating profile method, but the time investment alone is enough to render the odds against you. On the other hand, video is rapidly becoming the preferred medium for online communication and the it's part of the natural progression in the world of online dating. With video you get see people and you can be seen as you really are, video gives a true and current impression and makes the selection process much simpler. So when it comes to online dating video is the best available reflection of real life available at the moment.