What To Do If She Talks About Her Ex

Every guy knows it's a bad idea to talk about their ex when they first meet a girl. It sends the wrong message, makes it look like you haven't moved on, and is completely uninteresting to the girl. If you start talking about your ex, you're going to turn her off quickly.

But sometimes you're talking to a girl and she starts to talk about her ex. You have three options here:

Act like what she's saying is really interesting.

Try to change the subject.

Act uninterested.

Here's what most nice guys do:

Act like what she's saying is really interesting.

Smile and nod and ask her more about her feelings.

That's bad. You don't want her talking about her ex. Why would you want her talking about her failed relationship with a guy she probably wants to be back with a little bit? The more you ask her about her ex, the more she's talking about him, the worse you look in her eyes. You'll enter the "friend zone" before you even started.

The other two options are more desirable, but which you choose depends on how they have been reacting to your game. If you've been flirting with them pretty hard and playfully, you can try to change the subject. If you've been playing a calmer, cooler game, then you should simply act uninterested. Consider the following:

Changing the Subject - You can be a bit playful here. Say something like "let's not talk about that guy. I heard he has a rare form of Sexually Transmitted Monkey Pox. Let's talk about X instead..." Poking fun at the anonymous boyfriend like he's not a threat can get you points if the girl has been playful all night.

Acting Uninterested - Your goal is to meet a girl that you really like. A girl that talks about her ex-boyfriend isn't going to be one of those girls, no matter how pretty she may be. So acting uninterested in the conversation shows her that you're a confident male that doesn't need her, and hopefully helps her realize that she's talking about something boring. If it doesn't, you should probably start talking to someone else.

No one wants to talk to a girl that can't stop talking about her ex. You can be playful, or you can show her you're uninterested in her boring conversation about her failed relationship, but you shouldn't encourage that type of talk - especially not after you two have just met and you're supposed to be trying to impress each other. Don't encourage it, and definitely don't ask her to elaborate on anything.