Getting Back With An Ex - What You Need To Know

Whenever a relationship comes to an end, often the most difficult part is wondering if you made the right decision in letting your partner go.

Could she have been "the one?" "Was he the best I will ever have?" These questions can torment you relentlessly.

However, if you have done some soul-searching and have decided you want to reconcile, you need to be wise. You need to avoid very common mistakes people make that ruin their chances of getting back together with their ex.

Remember, your relationship broke up for a reason, and you need to discover what that reason is.

After a break up, people tend to allow their emotions to get the better of them. Fear takes over, which is why normally rational people often behave in bizarre ways after a relationship has ended.

Due to heartbreak, many people tend to behave in ways which sabotage any chances they may have of reconciling. Examples of such behaviors are:

Stalking their ex either in person or online

Constantly calling and texting their ex

Engaging in juvenile attempts to make the ex jealous

Publicly speaking ill of and even slandering their ex

Not only are these behaviors unhealthy, but they also make you seem needy and desperate - definitely not attractive! You must choose not to allow your emotions to control you. You have to approach reconciling with your ex with a clear head.

The most effective way to do this is by putting distance between you and your ex. Lose their number for a while. Sever your online ties to them by deleting them from your social media profiles. It will be difficult, but you must make a clean break in order to give yourself time to process your emotions.

Time has a way of giving us perspective on a situation unlike anything else. So, spend your time away from your ex by doing some much needed soul-searching. Figure out what your contribution was to the break up, and if the relationship is truly worth rebuilding.

A great way to sort through your feelings is by keeping a journal. Writing down your thoughts not only can be therapeutic, but can also give you deeper insight into why your relationship ended.

After a time, you may decide you still want to reconcile with your ex. If so, remember you must respect your ex's wishes!

If they are not open to reconciliation, you need to accept their decision and move on. However, if they appear to be receptive to the idea, let them set the pace for further engagement.

Make no mistake, reconciliation is possible, but the road back together is often long and challenging. By reflecting on what went wrong, you give yourself a much better chance of regaining your relationship. Use it wisely!