If you're like me then you can definitely relate to this question: do you suffer from "approach anxiety"? That's right, "approach anxiety" -- that feeling immediately before you walk up to a hottie for the initial time. It's a feeling of fear right? Even if it's only to ask or say something trivial. You see, it's this fear that's at the root of all failures to speak to a woman we're attracted to for the first time. And it's this fear that's responsible for a lot of missed opportunities.
But here's the thing, have you ever paused to wonder what's behind this? And have you ever wondered if there might be a tool to dispel any self-doubts about meeting women?
We all know that a remedy here would be to everyone's advantage, and I can reveal right now that a solution does exist. Three solutions in fact, and in this article I'm going to tell you what they are. So let's go ahead and really debunk this mystery, and reveal the means that those expert PUA (pick up artist) guys have discovered to free themselves from fear.
First though, we should briefly articulate exactly Why this emotion exists at all. In short, it stems from what's termed as evolutionary psychology. Inside the PUA community this has been made known primarily by Mystery of "Mystery Method" fame. Mystery theorizes that fear of meeting women is built into our genes; as our primogenitors died several thousand instances over for just this provocative behaviour. Ok, so we don't live in tribes on the plains anymore, and this is the modern age where conditions are obviously different, but this feeling still endures.
So is it invincible? This fear? Let's get to it and examine the tried and tested methods to remove approach anxiety and gain the freedom to open women in any situation.
1/ Pre-prepare your opener:
If you can open on autopilot then that's going to go a long way to dispelling any hesitation. In essence, memorise your opening line(s) before you go within the venue. Consequently, you'll be able to plan that all-important one step further than her, and focus on making your speech clear and at the required volume, with your posture charismatic and compelling.
2/ The 2 second rule:
Exactly like a Delta force member, you shouldn't have to worry about your reflexes under pressure. You spot a hottie, then you speak to her within two seconds every time until it is ingrained. Once this is a habit you will be pleased to find that fear rarely gets opportunity to play its tricks, and stop you from meeting women.
Plus, a further bonus to opening instantly is that the Pick up artist target will not get chance to spot you attempting to build the nerve to talk to her.
So I saved the best for last...
"The full use of your powers along lines of excellence."
- definition of "happiness" by John F. Kennedy (1917-1963)
3/ This is the most potent counteraction to the problem of "approach fear": you need to grasp that the pain you experience when approaching is much LESS than the discomfort you will be feeling from not doing it. It's important to dwell on this until it sinks in and becomes part of your thought process. Then you'll automatically find yourself interacting with new girls, getting the right results, and sending your self-esteem soaring!
PS. Quick PUA tip on opening in the club: Never stand side-by-side with your wingman in a venue - try to face each other.
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