I get a lot of guys asking me this, in fact my inbox is filled with guys asking the same question. They just don't feel confident around people they are attracted to. They could be with their friends feeling great, having a laugh but the moment they lay eyes on a gorgeous girl they go to putty. Heart rate increasing, sweaty palms and a flushed face as they try to find the right words. I used to be like that and heres how I went from shy to confident, and from having no life to having a great social and sex life.
The nervous response we feel is called the fight or flight response. It is present in literally every animal on the planet and thousands of years ago was the thing that made you spring when you saw a bear. Evolutionary theorists believe we get this response when we see a hot girl because many years ago it could be dangerous to talk to a women. What if it's some big caveman's girl? Chances are you'd be dead. The thing is it's not dangerous any more but were lumbered with the same response. Soooo, we have to change it.
1. One thing that'll help straight away in any situation where your nervous is focussing on your breath. Just allow your attention to fall on the seamless and effortless motion of your breathing. How it happens all by itself and feel deep in your body how relaxing the sensation of just breathing can be. Notice how comfortable your legs feel on the ground and realise that there is NOTHING at all to worry about.
2. Smile. It's proven that smiling, even when you don't want to releases feel good chemicals in your brain and helps you on a deep physical level. When you see someone you like make sure you smile and make a conscious effort to relax.
3. Eye contact. It's powerful stuff. Look who your talking to in the eye and they'll trust and respect you. Practise holding eye contact in every day situations and when it comes to the hottie in the nightclub it will be effortless.
4. Think to yourself.. how can I make this fun? Most people don't think this. They think will she like me? Is she gonna be mean to me? Completely useless questions. Your gonna take a different approach because your a champ and she knows it. Just think how can I make this fun. Make a fun comment, compliment her dress but most of all make sure you feel good because guess what, what you feel she feels so if your finding it funny so will she.
These tips sound simple but if used correctly will be great help. Make sure you check out the website for more in depth tips from styling to the bedroom.
Tom
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