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According to a study by Match.com, one in five singles have dated someone they met online. In 2010, 17% of marriages were couples who met on dating sites.
It's official--online dating is now mainstream, baby.
With all the women flocking to online dating sites, you'd think that guys would have no problem finding a suitable mates through these dating services.
You'd be wrong.
A shocking percentage of men who try online dating give up after just a few months. It's not that there aren't attractive women available. It's that some guys don't know how to market themselves in a way gets the response they want.
If you're not getting the kind of results you want from online dating sites... or if you've tried one in the past and quit out of frustration, you probably just need a few tweaks here and there to change your success rate. Here are some tips for online dating that will get you pointed in the right direction.
Be unique
If you're going to be successful on dating sites, you have to find a way to stand out from the crowd. A lot of guys make the mistake of trying to appeal to ALL women in the online dating pool. Taking this kind of bland, generalized approach only makes you look boring.
Instead, figure out what kind of women you're looking to attract and craft your image specifically toward appealing to them. Take a hard look at your profile. If it's a bunch of boilerplate nothing-ness, then replace it with something more exciting, dynamic and YOU.
Don't worry if not everyone likes you. He who tries to please everyone, pleases no one.
Show confidence
Women aren't attracted to needy, insecure men. Starting a message with a self defeating comment like, "You probably won't respond to this, but..." is the surest way to fail at online dating.
Here's a tip--it you're spending a lot of time trying to convince women of your worth, then you're showing your insecurity. The fact that you have something positive to offer should be an unstated assumption.
Use confident language in your messages like, "I'll talk to you soon..." rather than weak language like, "I really hope I hear back from you."
Be upbeat and positive
It's a simple fact: women want to be with guys who energize them.
You can't throw out this vibe with a doom and gloom profile where you ramble on about how sad and lonely you are.Ditch the woe-is-me stuff. Even if you FEEL hopeless, never SAY it.
Instead, load up your profile with positive, forward looking language and be sure to include at least a few pictures that show you being active and having a good time.
Use intriguing subject lines in messages
You'll never get a response if your message doesn't get opened.
Attractive women dozens of messages every week. If your subject line says something like, "Hi, there," it's likely to go straight to the trash bin without ever being read.
Instead, use intrigue to spark curiosity and get your messages read. Here are some examples of good subject lines.
"I just noticed that..."
"You remind me a little bit of..."
"3 things I'm really liking about your profile..."
"This cracked me up..."
Personalize your messages
Getting an email opened is only half the battle. Now is where you have to hook her.
The beginning of your email should always reference at least one thing in her profile. It can be a comment on anything from a picture she's posted to one of her listed interests.
Here's an example: "Hey, love that picture from Malibu Beach. I vacationed there a couple of years ago and had a fantastic time."
"I've got some pretty outrageous stories about that experience... I'll fill you in on those after we get to know each other. Otherwise, you might get the wrong impression. "
Keep in mind that a lot of women online are bored out of their minds with the responses they're getting. A little bit of wit in your emails goes a long way.
Of course, finding a woman to date is about making a good connection, but in the short term being flirtatious, funny and entertaining is your best bet for landing dates.
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