Pearls of Wisdom Series 7: How to Properly Break UP

You just met the guy/gal of your dreams. Too bad your significant other isn't him/her. What are you supposed to do? You want to be honest, but at the same time be nice. Luckily, I've devised a system anyone can use to break up the right way.

Step 1: Admit to yourself you don't feel that strongly about the person.

This is an important step because sometimes people convince themselves they really love someone out of sympathy or pity. Realize just how much or how little you care for the person and be truthful to yourself and the person.

Step 2: Contact the person and prepare a time and place to talk.

Things like this shouldn't be done over the phone especially if it's a long term relationship. You might think it's easier for both of you to do it this way, but it'll just lead to resentment and possible problems in the future. Have the courage to face them directly. It's the least you can do. Also, pick a place that's quite. If you break up with someone in the club, they'll just be confused and possibly not hear what you're saying.

Step 3: When you meet him/her don't give them any kind of affection. They need to know this is serious and you are not wanting to reciprocate any romantic feelings.

Step 4: Look them in the eye and explain to them why you can't be with them. Be brief but also be empathetic when waiting for a response.

Step 5: Stay firm in your action and do not change your mind or sentiment, especially at that moment. You don't want them to get mixed signals and think there could be a possibility for reconciliation.

Step 6: Do not ask them to be friends. He/She is your Ex. Exes need to stay Exes at least for a couple of years. If you really miss that person then a couple of months. There has to be a grace period of no contact so he/she can move on and you as well. It doesn't matter if he/she is groveling and begging you to take them back. If you really don't want to hurt that person's feelings, you can't be wishy washy. Stick to your position.

Step 7: State to them that you're sorry and be as sincere as you can be.

Step 8: Tell them you do not want any contact for a while and that you wish them the best.

Article written by: Rosemary Jasmine Rivera